what to do if your convo is going bad?

[void957]

lets say you plucked up the courage to talk to girl, approached her and the convo is very onesided as youre asking a lot of questions because she wont really respond. Obviously ill try to observe and make comments etc but what if shes not responding well? u have to keep using follow questions and the convo is just full of awkard silences.

i mean u can walk away but what was the point of approaching plus it looks weird just approaching havin **** convo then just leave in the middle.


i was thinking of a number close ?



let me know

 

[Between_The_Lines]

On the path to success with girls you'll find along the way becoming completely comfortable with awkward situations/silences as a necessary stepping stone.

 

[MOTU]

What Between The Lines said, and: shift the mood. Make fun of her, tickle her, do something unexpected. Saturday night I was chatting up this chick and it got a little stale so I literally picked her up (still sitting on her stool) and moved her to my table. She loved it and it totally reset the scene. It also showed my strength and dominance. I didn't bone her beacause she had bad teeth, but I could have.

 

[TheCWord]

Hi void. Sounds like we need to do some rewiring in your head, because when you should be thinking walk away you're going in the complete opposite direction and thinking number close. Ho boy. My responses in bold....

lets say you plucked up the courage to talk to girl,

Way to go!

approached her and the convo is very onesided as youre asking a lot of questions because she wont really respond.

She's not interested. Moving on.

Obviously ill try to observe and make comments etc but what if shes not responding well?

Not interested.

u have to keep using follow questions and the convo is just full of awkard silences.

Should've walked away by now.

i mean u can walk away

Sounds like you have some instinct on the right thing to do...

but what was the point of approaching

Because you were interested and knew the only way to find out if she'd also be interested is if you talk to her.


plus it looks weird just approaching havin **** convo then just leave in the middle.

Who? Who says it's weird? Has anyone told you it's weird? Listen, this girl knows why you started chatting her up. If you leave in the middle it will just indicate you were intuitive enough to know nothing was going on there. It would be weirder to stick around when this girl was giving signs that she's not interested in conversation.

i was thinking of a number close ?

You number close when a girl is showing some signs of interest. In this case, she was showing zero signs of interest.

let me know

I think what's happening here is you're still building up your confidence and you don't approach girls regularly. So when you finally do approach them (again, good on ya, keep it up) it seems so important because it's such a rare event. You put the approach and the girl up on a pedestal. You feel you need to get the number, she needs to be interested, or else you failed.

Hey man, you find approaching women thrilling. Who doesn't? I'd encourage you to find the thrill in WALKING AWAY. I love walking away. It makes me feel more confident. It's me saying that this interaction is not rewarding to me, so I'm no longer going to take part in it. That's empowering. And that carries over to the next girl you talk to. Once you start only dedicating your energy to high interest girls and walking away from the low interest, your confidence will snowball. I promise you.

 

[MOTU]

^^^THIS. I got out answered. Repped.^^^

 

[VladPatton]

She isn't feeling you, you're bothering her, is non receptive to your pick up attempt, so in this case you bounce. You will get this very often when approaching strange girls.