"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What to do if your best friend/wingman ****s the girl you want.

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It is a straight forward answer, I got over or am getting over my oneitis, and the one girl that I have liked or sort of felt something towards rather than getting bored, was ****ed by my bestfriend, I only found out this evening from another source that it happened, and he came round and explained everything to me.

Only problem is she is my housemate, so should I just cold shoulder her and him or just her and forgive him?

Many thanks Don Juans.


Spearmint.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Dump the "wingman" he's a biter, be nice to the girl because she's your housemate but no longer pursue. Don't be bitter about either, that's immature.
 
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Wish em the best and go get a new chick. Sh!t like this happens. Don't be bitter. Just move on. It's part of life brother.
 
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Did you make it clear to him that you were trying to get with her?

If he knew you were ACTIVELY pursuing her, then he's a d*ck.

If you only "liked" her, then hey, maybe he liked her too. I mean, I "like" about 20 different girls. So how can I get mad at my friends for banging some chick that I'm into?

I guess what I'm saying is: If he knows that you're shy around girls, and you were seriously trying to get this one girl, he should find another target. At least until she officially rejects you.

But if I had a friend who was flirting with a girl, but it never went anywhere, then yes I would f**k her. Because she obviously didn't like him anyway. And him liking her doesn't put her off limits.

Most important thing is....you DO NOT bang your housemate. That's just downright stupid.
 
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It was her decision. You are just assuming she would have f*cked you and fallen in love otherwise? You wanted to be her best out of 1000 but weren't even her best out of 2?

And even though you already lived with her she secretly did him? Get rid of them both.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If a girl you are "interested" (notice the choice of words) in bangs someone else she has only disqualified herself as something greater that could have existed in your life. Besides that we have the don't poop where you eat philosophy that very much does come into play here. Basically dude don't sweat this poon, be aloof and disinterested, maybe you can catch a nice BJ from her one day but that's it. It sure would suck for you to hit that then for her to start thinking that you owe her something. Starts not paying her bills and stuff... just something to consider...

Oh and get a new wingman too, this one is too desparate and has too little regard for you.
 
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