"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What to do if a chick starts bragging about the hot guys she's hooked up with?

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Just a generic question. This has happened a couple to times to me and I've never quite been sure the best way to deal with it. I have a few ideas but I curious what you all think. How do you shift that frame to your favour?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Yeah, this one's a heart breaker. What does she expect you to do? Talk to her about it and ask her how big his d1ck was?

Act indifferent, slip out of there.
 

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Yeah, I think my best response was, "yeah, I've been to a gay bar, tons of good lucking dudes hit on me too. Am I supposed to be impressed?"

And then she keep on talking and I left.
 

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I guess I was wondering if anybody has ever been in this situation and been able to turn it around into a hook-up?
 

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Yaounde said:
Just a generic question. This has happened a couple to times to me and I've never quite been sure the best way to deal with it. I have a few ideas but I curious what you all think. How do you shift that frame to your favour?
When a girl does this, they are trying to justify their own value and make you think that they are a catch. That she is desired and that every man wants to be with her. That you should work harder to and continue to chase her. The reality is that you are the prize now and she should be chasing you.

I had an ex tell me how "muscular" her ex-bf was. So I decided to creep his Facebook page out of boredom and saw a guy who was essentially fat and husky. Their was nothing athletic about the guy at all. She also went on to tell me about another bf who was a "professional" mountain biker, so I looked him up and noticed that he actually sucked and was being beaten by novice weekend warriors.

It's just another tactic by a woman to inflate her own ego. Ignore that BS and focus on you!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Hey Expos,

Yeah, philosophically that's easy but I figure there must be a way to easily a) get them to STFU about other dudes and b) flip the frame so that they start trying to qualify themselves directly to you.


expos said:
When a girl does this, they are trying to justify their own value and make you think that they are a catch. That she is desired and that every man wants to be with her. That you should work harder to and continue to chase her. The reality is that you are the prize now and she should be chasing you.

I had an ex tell me how "muscular" her ex-bf was. So I decided to creep his Facebook page out of boredom and saw a guy who was essentially fat and husky. Their was nothing athletic about the guy at all. She also went on to tell me about another bf who was a "professional" mountain biker, so I looked him up and noticed that he actually sucked and was being beaten by novice weekend warriors.

It's just another tactic by a woman to inflate her own ego. Ignore that BS and focus on you!
 

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Yaounde said:
Hey Expos,

Yeah, philosophically that's easy but I figure there must be a way to easily a) get them to STFU about other dudes and b) flip the frame so that they start trying to qualify themselves directly to you.
Act aloof and just nod your head and say nothing and blow past that conversation and start talking to her about other things. CONTROL the conversation and talk to her about things YOU want to talk about. Like what she'll be making you for breakfast tomorrow morning, lol.

Don't be phased by a woman tells you about her past. You are living in the now with her.
 

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Agree with expos. It's all about ego and value. No different from all the douchebag guys acting like the're hot ****, and bragging (lying) about their conquests to everyone, everywhere. Fake people and pretenders love to do this. They're usually insecure, empty, and full of ****. Really have nothing going for them.

Met a few girls like this, and they were part of the same douchebag pretender fake status crowd. They only THOUGHT it was a turn on, but I despised ho's and avoided them completely. All part of that society conditioning BS. Actually tells you a lot about the kind of people they are; who they attract and are attracted to.
 

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expos said:
I had an ex tell me how "muscular" her ex-bf was. So I decided to creep his Facebook page out of boredom and saw a guy who was essentially fat and husky. Their was nothing athletic about the guy at all. She also went on to tell me about another bf who was a "professional" mountain biker, so I looked him up and noticed that he actually sucked and was being beaten by novice weekend warriors.

It's just another tactic by a woman to inflate her own ego. Ignore that BS and focus on you!
Your ex-gf actually give you the first and last name of her previous bfs and this happened twice. Isn't that at risk of you finding out the truth about her and dumping her like a hot potatoe.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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corrector said:
Your ex-gf actually give you the first and last name of her previous bfs and this happened twice. Isn't that at risk of you finding out the truth about her and dumping her like a hot potatoe.

Didn't care. She was tagged in a few photos with her ex and I was able to check them out through FB. A couple months later, when we were no longer, her new BF started checking me out. How do I know? Well, he was visiting my LinkedIn page a couple times in a the span of a few days. So, she trashed or bragged about me to this guy. Typical triangulation game by chicks....
 

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expos said:
Didn't care. She was tagged in a few photos with her ex and I was able to check them out through FB. A couple months later, when we were no longer, her new BF started checking me out. How do I know? Well, he was visiting my LinkedIn page a couple times in a the span of a few days. So, she trashed or bragged about me to this guy. Typical triangulation game by chicks....
Fair enough. You saw her tag photos rather than her volunteer any information. Wow. Your LinkedIn page? So you don't cut off contact with our exes, huh? I deleted a LinkedIn connection request from my "ex" and hit unsubscribe. What's the point of keeping contact so potential lovers can see your page?
 

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Or try this...

HB: I hooked up with blah blah blah guy.

Mike: How old are you again?

HB: 21 <odds are she's young>

Mike: You're too young to be having sex. Your mom probably hasn't even given you the birds and the bees lecture yet lol.
 

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corrector said:
Fair enough. You saw her tag photos rather than her volunteer any information. Wow. Your LinkedIn page? So you don't cut off contact with our exes, huh? I deleted a LinkedIn connection request from my "ex" and hit unsubscribe. What's the point of keeping contact so potential lovers can see your page?
She volunteered the information. Then a couple days later I creeped her page while I was still banging her and saw a bunch of old photos of them on her page that she didn't delete. That's when I notice he wasn't "muscular" at all.

No, the boyfriend after me stalked my LinkedIn in page. I wondered why this dude kept looking at my profile, so I looked him up on FB and he was with my old-GF. This actually happened to me twice....once with this guy and another time with guy who got with my ex-wife about a year after we split. So, the dudes have been creeping me.

I don't talk with any of my ex-gfs...but I'm FB friends with a few of them if that makes sense. Usually they come back with a friend request 5 to 10 years later after we split. My FB photos are all public anyways, I don't care what my exes do or don't see. I do the dumping most of the time so I'm essentially checked out.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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You indifferently walk away. She's probably not interested in you anyway.

Stay there if you want to be in the friendzone.

Case closed.
 

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“Believe none of what you hear, and only half of what you see.”

― Benjamin Franklin
 

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I just shrug and say 'OK, I get it, you're a lesbian. Let's move on.'
 

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I just hold my frame and keep the conversation where I want it.
Ignore anything she says about hot guys
You're hotter than that! Uh... I mean better.
(No homo)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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