"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What to do here? Risk it or nah?

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It's a marathon, not a sprint. I'm all for letting things play out to smash down the road than blow it by jumping the gun.

If I ask a chick out and don't get a yes, I let it fizzle. They will either be back or not. Either way, it's ok. But I assure you the second you become too available, they are gone. Then it takes much more work to get their minds coming back around.

Let intentions be known and go from there. If you don't get a yes, walk. But don't push and burn a bridge. I would much rather have a woman wondering what's special about me that I won't chase (abundance) rather than her thinking she can text me at anytime and I will come running.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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It's a marathon, not a sprint. I'm all for letting things play out to smash down the road than blow it by jumping the gun.

If I ask a chick out and don't get a yes, I let it fizzle. They will either be back or not. Either way, it's ok. But I assure you the second you become too available, they are gone. Then it takes much more work to get their minds coming back around.

Let intentions be known and go from there. If you don't get a yes, walk. But don't push and burn a bridge. I would much rather have a woman wondering what's special about me that I won't chase (abundance) rather than her thinking she can text me at anytime and I will come running.
Ill go for This approach more, ill report What happens
 
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