"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What to do here? Risk it or nah?

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It's a marathon, not a sprint. I'm all for letting things play out to smash down the road than blow it by jumping the gun.

If I ask a chick out and don't get a yes, I let it fizzle. They will either be back or not. Either way, it's ok. But I assure you the second you become too available, they are gone. Then it takes much more work to get their minds coming back around.

Let intentions be known and go from there. If you don't get a yes, walk. But don't push and burn a bridge. I would much rather have a woman wondering what's special about me that I won't chase (abundance) rather than her thinking she can text me at anytime and I will come running.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It's a marathon, not a sprint. I'm all for letting things play out to smash down the road than blow it by jumping the gun.

If I ask a chick out and don't get a yes, I let it fizzle. They will either be back or not. Either way, it's ok. But I assure you the second you become too available, they are gone. Then it takes much more work to get their minds coming back around.

Let intentions be known and go from there. If you don't get a yes, walk. But don't push and burn a bridge. I would much rather have a woman wondering what's special about me that I won't chase (abundance) rather than her thinking she can text me at anytime and I will come running.
Ill go for This approach more, ill report What happens
 
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