What to do here DJs? don't want to f8ck up

[TheGambino]

My last threads are about this girl.

Shes the little sister of my former AFC girl so she knows everything me and her been true that didn't work out for me.

Anyway we met thursday, brief chats, had fun. Saturday we went to a techno party and she paid for the tickets and most of the drinks. Made out about 5-6 times, touching, holding hands and she had a lot of fun. She texted me right after I dropped her off that she had a great time and that im a darling...

So some brief chats that sunday and yesterday I texted her to arrange a next date.

Little detail: she doesnt speak to her sister for a while now because she doesnt like her bf and she doesnt visit their grandmother anymore.

Texts:

Her: Hey yes sure!
Me: Thursday and Friday work for me you?
Her: Im very busy with work and everything. (its legit because she told me that the first day we met, that she doesn't have time for nothing anymore)
Her: Ill get back to you okay.
Her: I have time saturday night but maybe im going to *nameofcity we both go out too regularly.
Me: Okay, its better to pick a day when you have more time.
Her: What are your plans for christmas evening?
Me: Going to have dinner at family in *nameofcity then im free.
Her: Okay
Her: Did you make a video of us (on our partydate) ?
Me: why?
Her: well my friend said that
Me: ye made a snapchat
Her: yes

She asks that because she knows I have her sister on snapchat too and she could see that, read my thread to understand whats up.

So this is not the best of what i expected.. thinking about NC until she reaches out

What should I do now boys? Don't want to f8ck up obviousley shes a sweet girl with long term potential.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Doesn't sound like a solid arrangement.... 'sometime on Christmas evening'.... 'okay'. Sounds too vague and like she'll make an excuse at the last minute. You need to be specific regards time and place of meeting when setting dates. You don't have to tell her what the plan is, probably better that you don't, but be specific about meeting

This is not a good time of year to be setting dates. Christmas Eve is for friends and/or family. Not a girl you hardly know. Dedicating this time to her means you don't have anything else going on, or more important people to see.

Don't want to f8ck up obviousley shes a sweet girl with long term potential.

You're over-thinking and over-investing in this already. She's telling you she's busy, but that doesn't necessarily mean she's busy. Someone who likes you a lot and wants to see you will make time. Sounds luke warm to me.

Maybe try again in the New Year and be relaxed about it, especially in your own mind; otherwise carry on with other prospects.

 

[SmooveMooves]

Yeah, you're just over thinking it because you really like the girl. You had it right, trust yourself. NC until she reaches out, based off what happened she should.

Also, scheduling dates around holiday season is a deathwish. It makes things more serious then they ought a be and as a result ruin the dynamic. Christmas time is reserved for family, close friends and Girlfriends not a chick you haven't smashed yet. Cause' you won't be smashing after an ugly sweater party.

 

[TheGambino]

Yea Smoove you are right. On top of that she knows about my history with her sister so she´s probably testing if im still needy or not. I´ll go about my business and not reach out until she sends a text and then ill decide what to do. If she ghosts me ill reach out in a couple of weeks...

any other thoughts, tell me

 

[sazc]

I'm with the boys above. Based on what she said, I would NC and let her reach back out. Plan your time the way you want to and let it play out. She may just be at a much too busy place in her life to allow someone in. Good luck on this one