I was at a party last night, and my friend and I were both interested in the same girl. I ended up kissing her and stopped us after just the kissing. However, today I found out that he has had sex with her multiple times and I don't if he has any hard feelings torwards me now. Before, I saw it as just a game between us to see who could get the chick but I didn't know that they had done anything. What should I do?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
What to Do For My Friend
- Thread starter dirtyvibe
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The Juan and only
Master Don Juan
Just explain what happened. If he's a good enough friend then he'll understand. Don't try to make up any bull**** lies because that will probably backfire on you.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
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Like Juan said. Be straight and tell him you didn't know. If he's cool, he ought to be ok with it...
Hunterchilla
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ya tell him u didnt know,
i mean id feel WIERD about it if my friend is hooking up with my EX, but i wouldnt stop him.. and if she broke up with me, and I still really liked her, then Id confront my friend about it and tell him not to.
I mean if he REALLY cares about her, like LOVES her or something and your just trying to "hit it" then u should find a different girl. But if its just some girl he hooked up with any deosnt have any real feelings for then hit it, and forget about ur stupid friend.
pluss id have to say if it costs ur friend ship forget about the girl, find another GIRL because friends are hard to come by and chicks u can find anywhere.
i mean id feel WIERD about it if my friend is hooking up with my EX, but i wouldnt stop him.. and if she broke up with me, and I still really liked her, then Id confront my friend about it and tell him not to.
I mean if he REALLY cares about her, like LOVES her or something and your just trying to "hit it" then u should find a different girl. But if its just some girl he hooked up with any deosnt have any real feelings for then hit it, and forget about ur stupid friend.
pluss id have to say if it costs ur friend ship forget about the girl, find another GIRL because friends are hard to come by and chicks u can find anywhere.