Deadly_Assassin
Master Don Juan
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hmmm I am in a tight situation at the moment. This post is about the asian chick from church. I was talking to my mate the other day about all the events that happened last year in our lives. One of the things was the asian chick from church. We kinda laughed about it and I told him how I try not to regret it. I told him the whole story and he told me some really interesting stuff. Its gonna be a horrible read but do give it a try.
Alright I ll try to keep it short. The asian chick from church is a virgin, hurt in her past LTR and her only one. Doesnt want a relationship at the moment. Hard out christian. Things went really well between us, lots of compliments from her, she herself even gave me her home number ( hardly any guys have it) a bit touchy, I put a flower in her hair one night after a service and she didnt take it off for the rest of the night. Caught her few times looking in my direction. When I would go up and talk to her she would really hug as if I meant something to her and she intiated the hugging business. So i guessed the IL was high
Then one night I went out with my mate. Got drunk and went n got with two other chicks. Later on the night I saw the asian chicks mate. I told the mate when a guys drunk hes always honest (yea rite). She straight away asked me a few times if I did like the asian chick. I kept saying no and I said shes a attention ***** and that I could get her whenever I wanted and that the asian chick is leading me on.
Then sunday came I went upto the asian chick and said i needed to talk to her and she said yea i kinda do too. I said to her whatever i said i didnt mean it specially the part about me getting her whenever I wanted, she laughed about it. Then I said to her shes a cool chick and all but I dont look at her that way. I could sense she was feeling a bit stink but was trying to hide it. She started pretty much repeating what I was saying to her. Like I just look at you as a friend and yeah and blah blah blah.
The same night I rang her up and said if I had hurt her feelings. SHe said na dont worry about it. Then I said if u do wanna go out thats fine I will be keen as well. I never told her that I had liked her for a long time and that whatever I said I was just lying about it cos I didnt want her friend to find out. I also said that if she wasnt ready I dont mind waiting (she apparantly never heard the waiting part). Then she kept saying she didnt know and wasnt sure and then we started talking about something else. We talked for a while. I told her about the two chicks I got with on that nite (I have a big mouth) and how my mates thnk I am player.
She came back to my first question after a while and said she wasnt ready and wanted someone who was genuine. I told her I can accept a no for an answer. She replied saying that I dont get it, I said to her na I gotta go, she told me to wait saying do u have to go? na we need to talk, I was like na I gotta go and I hung up.
The next day she was talking to my mate and told him how she was comfortable around me but had to keep her distance from the other guys. I took this the wrong way thinking I was to keep my distance from now on. So I started ignoring her at church. The first time I did it she came upto to me and asked if everything was alright. I was like yea why wouldnt it be. She started talking about something else and we got interepted and I took off. From then on we hardly ever talked.
Three months gone, shes pretty close to my family especially my mum. But theres no improvement on our part. I dunno what to do about this chick. Deep down inside I still want her. I try not to regret it but cant help thinking what if I had been honest with her mate and told her everything. What if I had been honest with the chck on that sunday night. What if I didnt hung up that phone and not ignored her at church. Its a new year and I wanna make a new start, and I dont want any regrets and i wanna be honest with this chick and tell her everything. But I know thats been kinda desperate if I go out the blue and do it.
Some of u might say u should just forgot about it but I cant cos I see her every sunday at church. I look into her eyes and theres so much I wanna say to her but I never do and it seems shes doing the same. We have a lot in common. We are not the same anymore, earlier I could make her laugh and we could talk for a while, and we would always tease each other pretty much about everything. Now its like we hardly know each other.
I know first I will have to get a bit close to her again just as a friend because now its just become a burden. I know I will be able to move on once I tell her everything and say sorry for my behaviour. I know you guys might say what a AFC saying sorry to her and who cares what she thinks, be a man, well this seems to be really holding me back and I have to get it off my chest.
Even if she says no its too late or whatever I dont care cos its off me.
All I wanna know is how do i get closer to her without coming off desperate and yet make her feel comfortable again and when would be the right time to talk about all this cos theres a lot of misunderstanding between us.
Alright I ll try to keep it short. The asian chick from church is a virgin, hurt in her past LTR and her only one. Doesnt want a relationship at the moment. Hard out christian. Things went really well between us, lots of compliments from her, she herself even gave me her home number ( hardly any guys have it) a bit touchy, I put a flower in her hair one night after a service and she didnt take it off for the rest of the night. Caught her few times looking in my direction. When I would go up and talk to her she would really hug as if I meant something to her and she intiated the hugging business. So i guessed the IL was high
Then one night I went out with my mate. Got drunk and went n got with two other chicks. Later on the night I saw the asian chicks mate. I told the mate when a guys drunk hes always honest (yea rite). She straight away asked me a few times if I did like the asian chick. I kept saying no and I said shes a attention ***** and that I could get her whenever I wanted and that the asian chick is leading me on.
Then sunday came I went upto the asian chick and said i needed to talk to her and she said yea i kinda do too. I said to her whatever i said i didnt mean it specially the part about me getting her whenever I wanted, she laughed about it. Then I said to her shes a cool chick and all but I dont look at her that way. I could sense she was feeling a bit stink but was trying to hide it. She started pretty much repeating what I was saying to her. Like I just look at you as a friend and yeah and blah blah blah.
The same night I rang her up and said if I had hurt her feelings. SHe said na dont worry about it. Then I said if u do wanna go out thats fine I will be keen as well. I never told her that I had liked her for a long time and that whatever I said I was just lying about it cos I didnt want her friend to find out. I also said that if she wasnt ready I dont mind waiting (she apparantly never heard the waiting part). Then she kept saying she didnt know and wasnt sure and then we started talking about something else. We talked for a while. I told her about the two chicks I got with on that nite (I have a big mouth) and how my mates thnk I am player.
She came back to my first question after a while and said she wasnt ready and wanted someone who was genuine. I told her I can accept a no for an answer. She replied saying that I dont get it, I said to her na I gotta go, she told me to wait saying do u have to go? na we need to talk, I was like na I gotta go and I hung up.
The next day she was talking to my mate and told him how she was comfortable around me but had to keep her distance from the other guys. I took this the wrong way thinking I was to keep my distance from now on. So I started ignoring her at church. The first time I did it she came upto to me and asked if everything was alright. I was like yea why wouldnt it be. She started talking about something else and we got interepted and I took off. From then on we hardly ever talked.
Three months gone, shes pretty close to my family especially my mum. But theres no improvement on our part. I dunno what to do about this chick. Deep down inside I still want her. I try not to regret it but cant help thinking what if I had been honest with her mate and told her everything. What if I had been honest with the chck on that sunday night. What if I didnt hung up that phone and not ignored her at church. Its a new year and I wanna make a new start, and I dont want any regrets and i wanna be honest with this chick and tell her everything. But I know thats been kinda desperate if I go out the blue and do it.
Some of u might say u should just forgot about it but I cant cos I see her every sunday at church. I look into her eyes and theres so much I wanna say to her but I never do and it seems shes doing the same. We have a lot in common. We are not the same anymore, earlier I could make her laugh and we could talk for a while, and we would always tease each other pretty much about everything. Now its like we hardly know each other.
I know first I will have to get a bit close to her again just as a friend because now its just become a burden. I know I will be able to move on once I tell her everything and say sorry for my behaviour. I know you guys might say what a AFC saying sorry to her and who cares what she thinks, be a man, well this seems to be really holding me back and I have to get it off my chest.
Even if she says no its too late or whatever I dont care cos its off me.
All I wanna know is how do i get closer to her without coming off desperate and yet make her feel comfortable again and when would be the right time to talk about all this cos theres a lot of misunderstanding between us.
