What to do after women quit talking/don't ask you questions after your opener?

[Deicide]

Hello, I recently had this problem since I started relying more on "natural game" for my cold approaches. I would get close proximity-wise to a girl, and then say "Hello, How're you doing?". They would answer, and then they would stop talking to me. First time it happened to me yesterday to an older woman in her 40's, so that didn't bother me. Today, it happened to me with an HB 7/8, so I just said a statement as if she had asked me how I had been doing, even though she didn't. I said "I'm doing good, just got done playing guitar before going out here". I wasn't trying to qualify myself to her, just to state something interesting to get conversation going. Even then, I had to carry the conversation by asking a few questions, and stating a few things. And she still didn't open me up on her own. So no, I didn't even get to qualifying herself for me, much less in the situation for a number close.
So when girls decide not to talk to you after you approach them, how do you open them up more without seeming desperate?
And yes, I know I still haven't transformed myself to the man I need to be, but that will come and it is a step-by-step process.

 

[FairShake]

What to do after women quit talking/don't ask you questions after your opener?

Depends on whether she's shy, distracted, or uninterested. I figure you can tell the difference. If she's shy I try to open her up with open-ended questions and cornball humor. If she's distracted I leave it to another day. If she's uninterested I leave.

 

[yuppaz]

Your openers sound kinda weak. Being unscripted is good, but doesn't mean it gives you a right to be boring. Funny is good, emoting is good, coming in dominant is fine. But you were kind of making idle chit chat. That's not too big of a deal, as long as you can follow it up. Examples;

Me: Wow, this weather is beautiful
Her: blah, ok whatever ya
Me: The last time I was out in weather like this, I swear I saw a XXXXX, I went to YYYYYYYYY and had a blast. Have you ever been there / done that?

etc. sounding kind of canned but the point is you can talk about whatever you feel like, but have some emotion (positive not negative) behind it to make it more relevant to her emotional circuitry. Talk about varying subjects that you want to talk about and when she chimes in, listen to what she's saying.

It totally ok to just chat away after the initial opener whether she hooks or not right away. If she's still there listening to you she may be interested.