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what to do about the older sugar daddy friend hanging around my LTR

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A cheating girl will cheat whether she hangs out with male friends or not, and a loyal girl won't cheat no matter how many male friends she has. It's dependant on her own personal moral code, and you can't really change that much. That being said, this discussion is really just a matter of possessiveness, and why you feel that it's right, not whether she'll cheat or not.
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Both sides have valid arguments.

A cheating girl will cheat and a loyal one will not.. But in some god forbidden moment of fun or being high or drunk with some guy friend who essentially is platonic.. some things could HAPPEN unknowingly in the HEAT of the moment. This is what is DANGEROUS.

Her hanging out with guys .. be secure.. dont be insecure.. But, if she puts herself in situations where she might lose control. That COULD possibly cause something without her really wanting it, but more just by accident.

She needs to learn to RESPECT not YOU.. not RESPECT the RELATIONSHIP and not put herself into situations.

PS: Bottomline when such situations arise.. YOUR DESIRABILITY and PRESENCE in her active life can cause her to GET OUT OF THE HEATED MOMENT and prevent cheating. The lack of the same could make her get into it more.

We humans are fvked up.
 

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That's when it gets tricky: nobody likes a LTR hanging out with male "friends" and we all recognize there are reasons to worry about such friendships. However, there ain't a bloody thing we can do about it because it would make us look insecure, jealous etc. and make the other guy look more attractive in her eye (cf. Forbidden fruit theory)
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What you're describing is having the insecurity about your woman having guy friends, but going out of your way not to give the appearance of insecurity.

That's much different than never having that insecurity to begin with.

Until the day my woman sleeps with one of her guy friends, it doesn't bother me a bit. Once she does, she's no longer my woman. I give everyone in my life the full benefit of trust until it's broken.

A wise man once said "The way to make a person trustworthy is to trust them"

As far as her flying to Jamaica to spend a week with her ex lover: It wouldn't make me jealous, but I'd probably see it as a sign of disrespect. Having trust and being a doormat are two disctinctly different things.
 
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