"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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what to do about the older sugar daddy friend hanging around my LTR

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A cheating girl will cheat whether she hangs out with male friends or not, and a loyal girl won't cheat no matter how many male friends she has. It's dependant on her own personal moral code, and you can't really change that much. That being said, this discussion is really just a matter of possessiveness, and why you feel that it's right, not whether she'll cheat or not.
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Both sides have valid arguments.

A cheating girl will cheat and a loyal one will not.. But in some god forbidden moment of fun or being high or drunk with some guy friend who essentially is platonic.. some things could HAPPEN unknowingly in the HEAT of the moment. This is what is DANGEROUS.

Her hanging out with guys .. be secure.. dont be insecure.. But, if she puts herself in situations where she might lose control. That COULD possibly cause something without her really wanting it, but more just by accident.

She needs to learn to RESPECT not YOU.. not RESPECT the RELATIONSHIP and not put herself into situations.

PS: Bottomline when such situations arise.. YOUR DESIRABILITY and PRESENCE in her active life can cause her to GET OUT OF THE HEATED MOMENT and prevent cheating. The lack of the same could make her get into it more.

We humans are fvked up.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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That's when it gets tricky: nobody likes a LTR hanging out with male "friends" and we all recognize there are reasons to worry about such friendships. However, there ain't a bloody thing we can do about it because it would make us look insecure, jealous etc. and make the other guy look more attractive in her eye (cf. Forbidden fruit theory)
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What you're describing is having the insecurity about your woman having guy friends, but going out of your way not to give the appearance of insecurity.

That's much different than never having that insecurity to begin with.

Until the day my woman sleeps with one of her guy friends, it doesn't bother me a bit. Once she does, she's no longer my woman. I give everyone in my life the full benefit of trust until it's broken.

A wise man once said "The way to make a person trustworthy is to trust them"

As far as her flying to Jamaica to spend a week with her ex lover: It wouldn't make me jealous, but I'd probably see it as a sign of disrespect. Having trust and being a doormat are two disctinctly different things.
 
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