"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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What things should one do to increase interest level with a girl?

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Suppose you are trying to date a girl that has low interest level. What things should one do to increase that interest level?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Have the characteristics she finds attractive, or pretend to. That's what interest level means.

Usually she either is interested or she isn't, and if she isn't interested now she probably won't be further down the line. Usually the only time an IL suddenly increases is if you don't see each other for a while and you've changed significantly in the interim, but even that's not common.

You could try eliciting her values and then moulding yourself into the kind of guy she likes, but (1) that compromises your identity and (2) she'll probably see through it and be less attracted to you.

[edit] Of course, I'm assuming her IL is set already, i.e. she's interacted with you enough to know (or think she knows) she's not into you. If you haven't interacted much, then it's entirely possible that she's on the fence, in which case just show her your personality or a pretend one and see how she reacts. Just ask her out and see what happens.
 
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Very good points

IBreatheSpears said:
Have the characteristics she finds attractive, or pretend to. That's what interest level means.

Usually she either is interested or she isn't, and if she isn't interested now she probably won't be further down the line. Usually the only time an IL suddenly increases is if you don't see each other for a while and you've changed significantly in the interim, but even that's not common.

You could try eliciting her values and then moulding yourself into the kind of guy she likes, but (1) that compromises your identity and (2) she'll probably see through it and be less attracted to you.

[edit] Of course, I'm assuming her IL is set already, i.e. she's interacted with you enough to know (or think she knows) she's not into you. If you haven't interacted much, then it's entirely possible that she's on the fence, in which case just show her your personality or a pretend one and see how she reacts. Just ask her out and see what happens.
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Very good points...Thanks
 
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