Okay, the secret wasn't really a secret, it's something you can pick up on in school but it comes back to a central point. All roads lead to Rome. If she's into you, she will give you the information that you need.
On a date, I'm not trying to make her laugh. It's coming from completely the wrong place. I think being self amused is the most powerful tool in terms of laughter. When you're at the point where you're genuinely not caring what she thinks, you're so much more attractive. All the trying to impress her, trying to make her laugh and pandering is just a front. It can't last forever, it's too tiresome. So I say forget trying to impress her or make her laugh, just keep a boyish self amused vibe, which she can't help be entranced by. Being self amused is more fun than trying to be funny, which is just a performance. It's weak sauce, you're not getting nominated for an award and being funny isn't really that sexy.
I have an answer to most things but these days I keep it to myself or just say it to myself because my behaviour was becoming too needy.I think about the girl I'm seeing, she says one of the main things she loves about me is that I'm funny. But being funny isn't sexy. I don't tell say something and she wants to rip my clothes off. It's actually the times when I'm quiet and the tensions building and I'm looking her in the eye and shes getting butterflies. I've said it on here before and I will again. Funny guys don't get laid. Being sexy and arousing will get you to wherever you want so much faster. At the end of the date, she's going to be thinking about how you made her feel. I say if she wants to laugh, she should hang out with her friends. If she wants to be aroused, now that's something I can help her with.