"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Can't believe this shit. Went on a date, she came back to mine, after she left the next morning - my wallet was empty and I'm sure I had £20 ($40)in there.

Why the fuck would somebody do that? If they went and stood on a street corner they would have made more then that.

Fuck.

(Rant over)

Oh well, onwards and upwards as they say.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hahaha!

Go slap her on the ass and tell her she owes you 19 more! :crackup::crackup:

Don't mean any insensitivity mate but it IS funny! Take the piss of her! You're british right? We brits know how to take the piss ^^
 

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as you brits say.

right mate, this is your penalty for dating chavettes! :)
 

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Yeah, I admit it is a little funny... I've never paid for sex before so its a new experience I guess (and at £20, cheaper than a prostitute).

She seemed classy enough at the time but you live and learn. DON'T leave the room without your wallet, even if you are just in boxers.

I'm tempted to say something to her. I must just say something like "You forgot my change - that wasn't even a tenner's worth"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You should know better. A lot of women feel its their right to get something out of having sex with a guy they hardly know. They feel kinda cheap and used in some sense. Sometimes they feel taken advantage of (even though its their own decision) and knowing they can walk away with "something" makes them feel a little better. Its like a woman who walks around with a vendetta for men.

Best practice when sleeping with a woman that does not qualify as "your girl" is to hide your stuff and keep close guard to your personal possessions. Keep a very close eye when you invite someone to your place. Don't just trust people off the bat.

Be very careful when going out to clubs sarging. Some women can sniff out your crafty intentions (and yes, PUAs are crafty) and set traps to make you feel like you're getting somewhere. Meanwhile, the whole time you think your mack skills are tight. There are some women that set up a hustle whereas they leave for a hotel with you and the whole time your dumb a$$ not realizing you're being followed by a male accomplice planning to rob your gullable sucker a$$ where there are no witnesses.

Its ok to go out and pick up chicks, but make sure to always be cautious. You never know who you're dealing with.
 

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AlanB said:
Yeah, I admit it is a little funny... I've never paid for sex before so its a new experience I guess (and at £20, cheaper than a prostitute).

She seemed classy enough at the time but you live and learn. DON'T leave the room without your wallet, even if you are just in boxers.

I'm tempted to say something to her. I must just say something like "You forgot my change - that wasn't even a tenner's worth"
Say it! :D Don't let that ho get away thinking she's cooler than you! She's used to guys being lame and not challenging her I suspect -- the shocked-church-lady expression you get from her could be PRICELESS!:D :D
 

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MrNotebook said:
You should know better. A lot of women feel its their right to get something out of having sex with a guy they hardly know. They feel kinda cheap and used in some sense. Sometimes they feel taken advantage of (even though its their own decision) and knowing they can walk away with "something" makes them feel a little better. Its like a woman who walks around with a vendetta for men.

Best practice when sleeping with a woman that does not qualify as "your girl" is to hide your stuff and keep close guard to your personal possessions. Keep a very close eye when you invite someone to your place. Don't just trust people off the bat.

Be very careful when going out to clubs sarging. Some women can sniff out your crafty intentions (and yes, PUAs are crafty) and set traps to make you feel like you're getting somewhere. Meanwhile, the whole time you think your mack skills are tight. There are some women that set up a hustle whereas they leave for a hotel with you and the whole time your dumb a$$ not realizing you're being followed by a male accomplice planning to rob your gullable sucker a$$ where there are no witnesses.

Its ok to go out and pick up chicks, but make sure to always be cautious. You never know who you're dealing with.
Thats good advice. I am normally careful like that. This was just a case of me leaving the room a couple of times without my trousers on, so I didn't have my wallet on me. It was someone I met last week in a bar, but I didn't bring her back that night.

I should know better but that has never happened before. I'm just glad I didn't have more cash on me. We were buying each other drinks and she must have spent near to that anyway, so she only broke even on the night financially.
 

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Say it! :D Don't let that ho get away thinking she's cooler than you! She's used to guys being lame and not challenging her I suspect -- the shocked-church-lady expression you get from her could be PRICELESS!:D :D
LOL. I called and challenged her and she got angry saying 'how dare I accuse her etc.' I just told her to enjoy the money but to delete my number and never bother me again.
 

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AlanB said:
LOL. I called and challenged her and she got angry saying 'how dare I accuse her etc.' I just told her to enjoy the money but to delete my number and never bother me again.
that would be funny if you found those bills in your car :D
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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that would be funny if you found those bills in your car :D
Not a chance, I have never had one, let alone two notes fall out of my wallet in my life. My pockets are pretty tight, seems impossible. Her reaction seemed different too, I am 99% sure she stole the money. I'm not that bothered about her anyway. She seemed quite interesting and fairly pleasant but looks and sex wise was pretty average.
 

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I know what you are saying but there is no doubt in my mind about it. I still have the receipt from the cash I drew on the way, I remember what I spent and checking what I had on me in the bathroom before I left.

Also, I think I have a pretty ****ing good bull**** detector. My scale went off the charts when I spoke to her - I'm sure.
 

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I would hit it again but only leave $20 in there this time. I'd turn it into a joke, sorta paying her for sex. However I wouldn't be inviting her to my house again cuz who knows what else she'd steal.
 

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Squares get played.
Players pay.
Pimps get paid.

I'd say some ho' took your money and didn't give a fvck about you. Maybe, after you fvcked her she took that money to give to her pimp...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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AlanB said:
LOL. I called and challenged her and she got angry saying 'how dare I accuse her etc.' I just told her to enjoy the money but to delete my number and never bother me again.
Clap clap! Now next time you pick up a chick, do it at an art gallery or something :D
 

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AlanB said:
Can't believe this shit. Went on a date, she came back to mine, after she left the next morning - my wallet was empty and I'm sure I had £20 ($40)in there.

Why the fuck would somebody do that? If they went and stood on a street corner they would have made more then that.

Fuck.

(Rant over)

Oh well, onwards and upwards as they say.
There are some hos you never bring home... for tis very reason... Do them in your car... or at a motel...
 

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DonGorgon said:
There are some hos you never bring home... for tis very reason... Do them in your car... or at a motel...
I agree but this one gave no appearance of being low class enough to do something like that. In fact, quite the opposite, she seemed pretty cultured and interested in a lot of high brow theatre/movies/books etc.

If anything, she was more of the mold of a con-artist then a cheap ho but after doing that, she is a fvcking dirtbag as far as I am concerned.
 

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Haha, that's hilarious. You've got either a prostitute or a pornstar in the making here, my friend. Suggest that you'll be bringing your video camera next time.

I wouldn't ditch her real quick. You can have fun with this situation. Jokingly mention the missing money next time you see her. Who knows, maybe you can have some crazy, adventurous sex with her.

Makes for a great story, anyway. Great job, bud.
 

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I wouldn't ditch her real quick. You can have fun with this situation. Jokingly mention the missing money next time you see her.
Too late for that; already ditched her and chucked her number.

I don't know how you guys could want to have anything more to do with someone who stole off you like that. Maybe if it had been a good friend who was on hard times and got a bit desperate something could be worked out but a woman I met a week ago, met up with and did a spot of shagging with?
Not a chance in hell. She can trot on and find some other chump who wants to buy the key to her knickers.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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