what the hell is this?

[pete101]

ok so i was supposed to have 3 dates back to back this week, tues, weds, thurs.

all have flaked in some shape or form. i met one off facebook on sunday, almost instantaneous only started chatting the night before, got number sun morning met sunday evening. went well but could tell she was an attention wh0re, kept lifting up her skirt to show me her thighs and tanline.. blatantly. i wasn't sure if she just wanting me to go gaga to get a reaction or was a clear IOI. she texts me the next day saying it was good to meet me. i suggest we get together again this week and she said sure and offers tues-thurs, not fri or weekend as she's out. so i choose thurs (i f'd myself cos i had set up for the last strike the other girl from the thread which pyros said to leave alone) i really should have booked this one for tues seeing as she had high interest or weds (problem was i had another facebook date for weds. but ultimately that flaked but rearranged for this Sat)

so basically i had 3 dates tues,weds thurs, and they all flaked. anyway today's one responded to my where to meet tonight text with 'hi let's meet another day' i dont respond. at the time we're supposed to meet 5mins before (6.45pm was the original meeting time) she calls me.. i dont pick up. is she just testing to see if im angry or ignoring her or what i'm up to?

she's a bit volatile this one and i dont want to play silly waiting games with her cos she'll end up just losing interest or get stroppy. so i text her 5 mins after i got the missed call saying 'hey, im out right now it's too loud to take calls in here, what's up?' - why do you think she called 5 mins before we were supposed to meet, was she checking to see if i was still available or with another girl?

she texts back 'it's all cool, i just finish meeting in x place will be in this area..' - i didn't understand what her text was about.. like was she trying to see if i was available to see her or.. so i sent 'ok, i dont understand your message though..do you mean you still want to meet now?' (maybe she was just trying to save face and give flakey reason why she called)
she texts me back 'im at y place waiting my girlie will be free till 8 if u around' - i didn't reply.

i think it's disrespectful that 1. she didn't counter offer a time/day to meet that's why i didn't reply in the first place. 2. she's telling me she's meeting one of her gf's when originally we were supposed to meet this evening. that's why i haven't replied to her latest text. my plan is to just start up again next week, really she should have offered a diff time but she's a spoilt only child so i'm just not responding to any of her validation seeking messages (which i guess i already did today).. keep her guessing by not replying. maybe she'll suss im annoyed that we were supposed to meet and she's meeting her gf instead.

 

[Tiguere]

Pump and dump.. Meet her for sex and sex only

 

[logicallefty]

OP, I have had this many flakes in this short of time. From the sounds of what you told us, I do not see any wrong doing on your part here. Sounds like you are handling your bui'ness RIGHT.

Don't take it personally.

I would go NC on all 3 and see who contacts you next. Then do what Tiguere said, go straight for some sex. No spending money on these AWs until they prove worthy, if ever. And they may never.

 

[Great being a man]

women don't concern themselves with showing respect.............and you should get used to not expecting much.

If all you're doing is looking for some tail action, then who cares what they do?

I always figure if they behave that flaky, the sex will be lousy anyway, so just move on.

H.L. Mencken once said :

"Whenever you see a beautiful woman, always remember, that someone, somewhere, is pathetically happy she is out of his life"

best of luck

 

[christoff522]

H.L. Mencken once said :

"Whenever you see a beautiful woman, always remember, that someone, somewhere, is pathetically happy she is out of his life"

Such a true quote!

 

[Sino Zane]

It's whatever, dude. Always remember that women, without fail, will always do what's best for them, so do what's best for you by continuing to meet new people. Even when you have girls lined up, always be meeting new people. Eventually, a girl will be DTF.

 

[pete101]

i don't get this girl.. so i don't reply to her message and guess what, at 11.15pm she calls me again.. i dont answer.. what the hell is she calling me for on a friday night? for sex?

i call her back couple mins later to speak, she tells me she's out.. i go i'm out too going home soon.. she's like 'ok we'll speak another day.'

i don't understand this behaviour? is this a booty call? surely not, i didn't say i was busy just i was out and heading home soon.. i suspect she's just calling cos i didn't reply to her yesterday and can't guess what i'm thinking so calls to get reassurance.. surely if it was a booty call she'd hint about meeting up? i did say i was out and heading home soon, so i guess she's just looking to check up on me and see what' i'm doing so she can rest easy i'm not off f'ing another girl as i should be.

 

[pete101]

I realised now it was a sh!t test to see if im out with other girls/available to her.. i was just too slow to realise it when it happened and thought it was to check up on me cos i hadn't replied to her text the day before.

i won't be surprised if she doesn't meet up with me now on basis of just that cos well women are weird. you face a sh!t test and don't pass she suddenly loses interest inexplicably

i text her today to meet up and she texts me 'who is this my phone went off lol'

wtf is wrong with these chicks.. she's deleted my number cos i'm out on fri night when she calls me at 11pm.. what the f is her problem

 

[NinjaMaster]

ok so i was supposed to have 3 dates back to back this week, tues, weds, thurs.

all have flaked in some shape or form. i met one off facebook on sunday, almost instantaneous only started chatting the night before, got number sun morning met sunday evening. went well but could tell she was an attention wh0re, kept lifting up her skirt to show me her thighs and tanline.. blatantly. i wasn't sure if she just wanting me to go gaga to get a reaction or was a clear IOI. she texts me the next day saying it was good to meet me. i suggest we get together again this week and she said sure and offers tues-thurs, not fri or weekend as she's out. so i choose thurs (i f'd myself cos i had set up for the last strike the other girl from the thread which pyros said to leave alone) i really should have booked this one for tues seeing as she had high interest or weds (problem was i had another facebook date for weds. but ultimately that flaked but rearranged for this Sat)

so basically i had 3 dates tues,weds thurs, and they all flaked. anyway today's one responded to my where to meet tonight text with 'hi let's meet another day' i dont respond. at the time we're supposed to meet 5mins before (6.45pm was the original meeting time) she calls me.. i dont pick up. is she just testing to see if im angry or ignoring her or what i'm up to?

she's a bit volatile this one and i dont want to play silly waiting games with her cos she'll end up just losing interest or get stroppy. so i text her 5 mins after i got the missed call saying 'hey, im out right now it's too loud to take calls in here, what's up?' - why do you think she called 5 mins before we were supposed to meet, was she checking to see if i was still available or with another girl?

she texts back 'it's all cool, i just finish meeting in x place will be in this area..' - i didn't understand what her text was about.. like was she trying to see if i was available to see her or.. so i sent 'ok, i dont understand your message though..do you mean you still want to meet now?' (maybe she was just trying to save face and give flakey reason why she called)
she texts me back 'im at y place waiting my girlie will be free till 8 if u around' - i didn't reply.

i think it's disrespectful that 1. she didn't counter offer a time/day to meet that's why i didn't reply in the first place. 2. she's telling me she's meeting one of her gf's when originally we were supposed to meet this evening. that's why i haven't replied to her latest text. my plan is to just start up again next week, really she should have offered a diff time but she's a spoilt only child so i'm just not responding to any of her validation seeking messages (which i guess i already did today).. keep her guessing by not replying. maybe she'll suss im annoyed that we were supposed to meet and she's meeting her gf instead.

Pete101. You are your own worst enemy.

These chicks don't see you as a man but a boy without his own life who is willing to jump through their hoops and is easy to string along since YOU were the one to fvk things up in the first place. How? By letting them string you along, getting worried over nonsense etc.

You set up a meet. If they can't make it you should have your own life without telling them you do correct? How many times will you ask to meet someone you never met in the first place?

They don't know you from a can of paint in real life correct?

Same with dudes. If you set up going out with a dude you know to a bar and they come up with excuses or can't go etc. you should have enough of your own life to not care and have something else to do. Either you'll eventually meet up to watch a game etc. or you won't. You wouldn't keep calling and texting your friends hounding them to go out to make them sick of you basically signalling to them that Pete101 doesn't have his own life would you?


First you need to worry about having your own life. Your own things to do. Chicks second. They can read a dude who has things going on and isn't expecting them to be the center of his world or a possible stage 5 clinger.

To chicks you don't know in real life you ask them out twice at two different times maximum. If they are wishy washy you don't challenge them on it (push it) you simply drop off and drop their number. Period.