What the hell is going on!!!

[Elf]

Guys here's the deal, i've been dating this girl for 2 weeks, it went well i guess, on the second date she was really into me and started giving me lots of attention and cared for me and such. Well, she has a very low self-esteem but i don't think that's the problem, because she's not a ugly girl( a normal girl, i would rate her a 6.5/7). The truth is she is turning 18 in august and her parents don't let her go out in weekends nor at night, the thing is when i wan't to be with her i need to miss some classes in the afternoon twice a week( we aren't together more than 2 days a week ) to be with her a couple of hours because she doesn't want to get late home. She used to send me sms, and even when she was out of money she would call or send sms from her friends cell phones, then this week she stopped giving me news but she would see me again, telling me how much she likes me, how much she want's to be with me, but i feel that something is wrong. I asked her today if she wanna date me in an exclusive relationship and she said yes, and said she was really truly happy, but when i asked her if she wanted to go wednesday to have lunch with me to commemorate she refused saying it was impossible for her and didn't give another option for possibly some other day, but she agreed to be with me those same 2 hours we use to be together.

She pushed the sex issue also, and said that she want to do sex with me and lose her virginity with me, but only if i assume a serious relationship, also she mentioned that she doesn't want her family to know we are dating not even her best girl friends....

I mean why is she "hiding me"? What the **** she want's from me? Why can't i stop thinking that she is only with me because no else want's her, that she is just wasting time.... and she doesn't feel nothing so serious as she say.

Can u give me your opinions guys on what is happening here and the most reasonable solutions for this.

Thanks

 

[phenom]

Elf

Ahhhh....welcome to the wonderful world of women. All of us are here for one reason: to figure out women. It's an ongoing war with no end in sight.

In this situation you should forget about everything she says and pay attention to her actions. If she is "hiding you" then this will not work out even if she professes her love for you everyday on her hands and knees. She will eventually dump you for the better deal. She's stringing you along and you should walk away ASAP!

 

[rgeere]

Sounds like she has some serious intimacy/emotional issues that need to be resolved. She appears, from your description, to have some fear of expressing herself to people she is close to.

I wouldn't take what she is saying as being personal against you. My speculation is that she is afraid to let people know there is a side of her that desires the opposite sex, period.

 

[Elf]

but if i walk away and she comes back again that doesn't mean that something is going to change right?

 

[rgeere]

Re: Elf

Originally posted by phenom
She's stringing you along and you should walk away ASAP!

Or what phenom says, but that all depends on how honest and innocent the girls is. Girls arn't above doing this.

 

[adude]

i think that this girls parents are deeply religious and don't want their lil girl to get in trouble or i might be wrong, what race is she out of curiosity?

 

[Elf]

she is portuguese like me and her parents are catholic.... i don't seem that it's her parents fault... it seems she is hiding me for some reason, even from her friends... she never let me talk with one of her friends, sometimes when i go to meet her, i see her with some girl friends and when she sees me, she doesn't introduce me to them, i think that's ****in' weird.

 

[NatureGuy]

I say you're way too young to be worried about the seriousness of this relationship. You should be focused on your schooling, career, hobbies, fun with friends, family. And it sounds like she has alot of legitimate demands on her time.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

It might be a million different things that are making her act this way. But I can tell you one thing, this is not the blooming of a healthy relationship. Infact if your already confused, frustrated and lost it will only get worse. She sounds like the typical chick. Always wants someone to be there in her life but it doesn't necessarily mean anything to her. I'd be suspicious of what she does when your not with her. Not saying she's a *****, but you never know.


I think you should get rid of her. Of course she'll come crawling back and all but its not worth the drama.



PIMP

 

[Lingus01]

BE ASSERTIVE!

Don't talk to her about being in a relationship with her unless she starts introducing you to her parents and friends.

If she brings it up try changing the topic to why she won't introduce you to her friends.

If all else fails walk away from this girl. She is sounding flaky to me.

Girls that really like you and want to date you will be proud of you. When girls are proud of you they enjoy showing you off to her girl friends and her parents.

 

[NewMan]

It sounds like she has some issues with BF/GF stuff.

Also I would say she's hiding you because of her parents - you have reason to believe otherwise?

Listen you are young. You've got lot's of time - just have fun and don't get serious.

Secondly - never ask her to be exclusive - let her ask you.

You've got to be happy in any relationship - so if your bothered by something, call her on it - plain and simple.

 

[DJ_Dork]

i see no future in this relationship.