"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What the hell? I'll never understand women.

Brules Rules

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So I've known this girl for a while now. We have a bit of a history, and it all went down the ****er a year and a half ago. Over the summer she contacted me on myspace, and we slowly got used to being around each other again. I've only been over to her new apartment once, and it was because she was having a party last week, and I'm friends with one of her roommates (not a guy).

After she went to sleep I must have kept on drinking, because the next morning I found that I had sent a few text messages to her during the night, telling her that I missed her. At first I thought that I had ****ed up, but she was more affectionate than usual the following morning.

Last sunday she sent me a comment on myspace telling me that I should come over and hang out again sometime, "maybe" this weekend. I told her to give me a call, but she never did.

The other day her one roommate (the one I'm friends with) sent me a comment reiterating her sentiment: that I should come over and hang out with them. I asked her when specifically, and she told me tonight was good.

So I was just about to walk out the door, and I got a message from the roommate telling me that she's had a long day, and asked if I would mind if she cancelled tonight. I responded with a simple "I guess not", and she sent me another text telling me not to be mad, and going into detail about what's she's currently doing... whatever. No big deal there.

The odd thing is that I went on the other girls (the one I was into) myspace earlier, and she's deleted me off of her top 8. Not only that, she's deleted every guy from her top 8 , including her other roommate, and turned it into a top 4 with just female friends. And there's some stupid little "mood" thing over on the side that used to say "chipper", and now it says "melancholic", or whatever.

I don't know why they're suddenly acting all flakey (the girl I'm friends with claims to hate flakey people), and I'm not exactly sure how I should deal with them in the future. I mean, obviously it's not a big deal, I just don't want to waste my time on someone who doesn't want to waste their time on me.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Understand that we have to beat women at their own game. Women will give us affection and make us think we are the only one. But in reality they have 5 guys on the side and woman tell us what we want to hear because it keeps us around.

They lie for the hell of it to manipulate us. Most men are honest people and fall for the act from women. Stop falling for it because it isn't true.

The only action we can take when a woman gives us trouble is go out and meet new women and forget about the old.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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well thank god we don't need to understand them to get to bed. or it would just be a lost cause
 

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You'll never understand women? Join the club.

The point isn't to understand them. The point is to realize they're weird and different and beautiful, but all you can do is judge them by their actions.
 

Brules Rules

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No. I don't think this has anything to do with her teasing me, or needing to spin plates. I figure something happened in the last week to upset her, and this is her way of acting out. I'm pretty sure it has nothing to even do with me. Judging by the comments on her myspace page, it seems like she's even ignoring her roommates. I dunno. Maybe her cat died, and the one roommate wasn't sensitive enough about it, and now she's pissed at all men. Maybe some guy called her fat. Maybe she broke a nail. Who ****ing knows!?!

The other roommate (the one I've always been friends with), called me up the following night to go out to a bar or something, but I had other plans. I'm not sure if she really was "tired", or was told not to have me over, but at least she tried making it up to me.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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My Name is Nobody said:
Understand that we have to beat women at their own game. Women will give us affection and make us think we are the only one. But in reality they have 5 guys on the side and woman tell us what we want to hear because it keeps us around.

They lie for the hell of it to manipulate us. Most men are honest people and fall for the act from women. Stop falling for it because it isn't true.

The only action we can take when a woman gives us trouble is go out and meet new women and forget about the old.
I agree. But, you need to know first-hand whether her love and affection is genuine so; you don't get burned down the road. I can tell when a b!tch is playing me or lieing to me and I let her go before, I get hurt.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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