What the hell happened?

[The Decay of Meaning]

So I went out with my friend/sexual partner. We hang out almost every day and stuff. We have lots of fun together and she spends a lot of time in my apartment. Recently she has been a bit difficult (I've told her to get a grip), things settled, and today we were going out. Today I went to the border in this country, and since things are cheaper there I offered to buy her some ciggaretes. I did.

We met, and basically she was cool and funny. Then she asked me to take care of her purse. Since she is a good girl I said yes and she danced and stuff. A little irritated she was kind of flirting with other men but we are not in a relationship (and I am allowed to do the same thing) so.. Not much of a problem there.

Anyways after she danced we decide to go out, her to take a smoke, me to get some air. She asks me to take her jacket, and I said no. I don't want to be her pet or her personal carrier and I kind of felt I was being a little used.
Then she said "let's go to bar xxxxxxx", and I said no because security has been tight there and they discriminate men and only let girls go unpassed. She kept pushing and I said we could go to another place and I said I won't come in (even though I am twenty and she is eighteen).

So we went there and she was acting like crazy, trying to sneek out of the queue and wanted to show her breasts. This annoyed me.

Then we got to the bouncers and she and her friend was let in and they just walked, fast paced and eager. They didn't even see if I got in or not. I didn't get in, just as I said. I sent her a message saying that "Ok, the bouncers didn't let me in". No answer back. Apparently she didn't give a crap and even though we were supposed to go downtown and have fun this night, she just left me/abandoned me.

I later sent her a message saying that I felt it was really disrespectful and that we should reconsider if we should see each other again. No answer back.

WTF?

 

[jdon23]

Next the b!tch. She disrespected you. As a man you can't tolerate that.

 

[Five To One]

Dude. You got burned by a b1tch.
Don't ask what you did wrong, because you didn't.
Be mad about it and then move on


Don't reply ever to her if she contacts you.

 

[The Decay of Meaning]

After this the day after in the late evening she contacted me and made up some excuses. Like she figured I had gone to another room in that bar, she didn't see my message, and what not.

Now she says she cares about me, sends kisses and calls me pumpkin and stuff. Why?

I told her we could have a talk later this evening. Gonna bust the errors in her logic (ie her excuses), then see what she says. In the meantime before we talk, I shall consider dropping her.

 

[cky]

Sounds like she wants control, now that you're being mad, she'll just try to win you back over and she's gonna be disrespectful another time. Either next her or take control HARD.

 

[MisterMcGee]

id say give her 1 more chance

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

Fuck buddies are just for bed . Not to take them on clubs , hold their purse while they flirt with other guys than get left outside the club like a piece of shit.

If your relation with her is just FB , maybe you should give her another chance.
But for friendship , lover or something else , ditch her slutty ass .

 

[The Decay of Meaning]

hold their purse while they flirt with other guys than get left outside the club like a piece of ****.

I've flirted with girls in front of her, held around other girls at the bar, our face close to each other, etc. She later said it was no problem since we are not in a relationship and encouraged me to go back to that girl. So that's not the biggie.

It's the leaving outside the club plus her not calling until late in the evening the next day.

Others tried to contact her the following day with little result, so it wasn't just me. But apparently she was able to call.

Thanks for your input so far everyone.

 

[The Decay of Meaning]

Talked her now. She seemed quite sincere and even said "I'm not a ****ty ***** who do stuff like that with bad intentions/with purpose". She's having a hard time now (family issues), she was drunk and so on. And her family tried to contact her the same day. And she talked about this in a mature way while we talked.

I've come to know here as a really good girl, so I'll let this go, but I still will keep a close eye on her behavior. She also kept a receipt for a jacket we bought for me which I need, and I didn't expect either of us to have it. I don't like situations like that, so we'll see what happens. She's on probation.