What the hell did I do wrong with this one???

[Falcon25]

Been reading you guys for a long time and I think you guys give some great advice. Here's the situation;

I met up last Thursday with a girl that I met online, everything went good, didn't kiss her but she called and texted me immediately for I would say the next three days. So on Sunday she calls me, I was flirting with her over the phone. I guess this was a no no. Then she texted me and I was cracking up at some of her messages and also what she was saying over the phone. I asked her over the phone casually "when am I going to see you again?". She said she is very busy with work this week but is going on vacation next week and would be more available. So she kinda blew me off and I didn't press the issue, I figured I would ask later in the week. But she texted me afterwards and as we were small talking I said "You are just something else you seriously crack me up. I thought you were just a pretty face but you're pretty fun to talk too as well, think I'll keep you around.". Mind you, I said this jokingly with a emoticon. She never responded back. She has not called me, has not texted me, anything. This was a girl who used to call me and text me almost everyday. I haven't called or anything either. It's been since Sunday. What the hell happened here? Should I call? Please help. Thanks.

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

Way too much texting here man. And you even used emoticons? When a man goes AFC with a woman who has nothing invested in him, instant game over.

Plus I think women who do the online dating are just looking for someone to entertain them for a week.

 

[JCballin88]

Look, you have to be REALLY careful with those kinds of messages. Electronic communication takes all the tone-of-voice out of the equation. And that usually leads to bad things.

You sound a little like me in that you can be pretty funny/flirty/sarcastic in person. That's all well and good, but you can't trust girls to interpret messages like that without some sort of in-person way to make it all seem like a joke.

Also, you should probably not say things like "you were just a pretty face." Again, if this is in-person and you can do a little kino/tease move while you say it, you MIGHT be able to get away with it. Honestly though I would avoid phrases like that...I mean it just doesn't sound good even if your intentions were to be funny. She evidently took it the wrong way and it's coming back to bite you now.

 

[Falcon25]

My question is; How did I go AFC? By showing too much interest? I was just joking. Guess I'm too old to understand the consequences of texting. Had no idea.

 

[Falcon25]

I guess if a woman is going to be this anal, I don't want do deal with her anyways. Sheesh......Was just makin fun. I'm just a happy go person who likes to talk some shivt. Had no idea.....Don't even want to call her anymore.

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

How is a woman going to be attracted to a guy who has nothing better to do than text her on a phone? They'll eat up a guys' attention for a little bit, then drop him.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

My question is; How did I go AFC? By showing too much interest? I was just joking. Guess I'm too old to understand the consequences of texting. Had no idea.

"When am i going to see you again?" -------- that's how you went AFC. Also I don't really think the text was the backbreaker, it sounds like she had medium to low interest before that. A girl texting you isn't really a strong indicator of interest, texting much like Facebook is more a tool for attention than anything else.

But I will echo what many have already said, until you know the girl pretty well, refrain from sarcastic texts, which can be viewed as insulting rather than joking.




PIMP

 

[slaog]

I said "You are just something else you seriously crack me up. I thought you were just a pretty face but you're pretty fun to talk too as well, think I'll keep you around.". Mind you, I said this jokingly with a emoticon. She never responded back. She has not called me, has not texted me, anything. This was a girl who used to call me and text me almost everyday. I haven't called or anything either. It's been since Sunday. What the hell happened here? Should I call? Please help. Thanks.

I would be a joke if she was ugly and not funny. You went more AFC and couldn't hold in your emotions and thats what came out. You were far too keen after the date and that turned her off.


Women sometimes will take a while to figure somebody out and when they do (realise you're an AFC) its over.


You have a low value mindset so change it and you'll have no problems then.

 

[Falcon25]

Update;

I called her tonight....She texted me and said she was gettin a drink with a friend and would chat with me later....She called me a couple hours later. I said fuvk it, I asked her out for tomorrow. She said she was busy with ...... Who cares. I said ok, I'll call you Sunday or something and maybe next week we can meet up. She said, okay, but before I leave for Christmas trip on Wednesday. I said cool and goodnite. I'm going to delete her number and just move on. She didn't give a date in return to when I asked about tomorrow night all she said was "before I leave Wednesday". She doesn't seem interested, though she did call me back. Just gonna assume this one is done. I won't call anymore, she doesn't seem interested. Opinions???Thanks guys. I think I lost this one when I acted too interested after the date. I thought it would be no big deal to ask "when am I going to see you again?". After our first date. But it's huge if the girls interest is low.

 

[mustfirstregister]

thanks for the interesting topic about what not to do on a date.

 

[Falcon25]

Everyone agree i should write this off?

 

[cat psychology]

forget her

Shez a gonner mate!

 

[Exhumed]

Yeah that text you sent her translates to "You are not like any girl I've met. You're pretty, and also fun. I think I want a relationship with you." without the intonation of your voice to make your meaning clear...

 

[K2000kidd]

"think I'll keep you around.".

She may have also been miffed by that little statement right there.

1. it kinda looks like you have numerous HBs you "keep around"
2. also gives the impression you think you're a pretty big deal.

 

[DonGorgon]

I asked her over the phone casually "when am I going to see you again?".


She said she is very busy with work this week but is going on vacation next week and would be more available. So she kinda blew me off.

NOTE: Never ever say, "when am I going to see you again?"
Women find that weak and repulsive

Instead say - "I think ima have some free time comin up soon, we should do something maybe kickit and see whats good! Cool.."

That keeps women off balance and wondering and gives you the control... which women love..

 

[Joe Stud]

back burner. let her approach you next