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anyway, i have this chick right, i mean she says she loves me. k lemme give u a background of what she's like. she's over dramatic n likes to push peoples buttons especially mine. she'l say sumthing nice then sumthing totally off the map. she says she loves me yet id speak to her n she'l say she cant talk to me cos she doesnt have anything 2 say 2 me n if she tells me sumthing i end up lecturing her. fok all i do is sympathize and try to understand her n make her see the bright side of it. she even says she thankful that i try 2 make her see the positive cos i am optimistic naturally. but i dnt get it, y give me such mixed signals. k fair enuff we cant date cos we had abit of a run in with drugs n her mother lol.

like now for example, she fones n i start busting her n shes like every1s gettn on her nerves n im annoying n i mus jus go do my work n she puts the fone down. so i fone back n im like why u such a drama queen n blah blah n she jus acts weird n says stupid things then she tells me again go do my work so i tell her **** off if u dnt want 2 speak 2 me n i cut the call.

so y the hell does she deliberately say stupid things that contradict how she feels unless he maybe tells me her feelings wen she is vulnerable o looking for attention. i honestly dnt get it with this chick, maybe she takes me for granted n thinks im a toy she can easily push cos wen i push back she'l get angry or frustrated. like she'l say im an idiot n ill say "but u cant resist ur attraction for me" then she'l b like shutup dnt make urself feel important n i'll b like "i dont, i got u 2 do it 4 me" then she'l say sumthing stupid lol. but wat the hell do i do? i wana make her desire me but i think i get 2 wussy at times n she senses it n pushes my buttons.
 

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y the hell does she deliberately say stupid things...unless...maybe...she is...looking for attention.
you probably answered your own question accurately right there.

IL is low, probably 40s/50s. If you seriously want her IL to rise, you're going to have to act differently around her. Read the Bible if you haven't already.
 

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Leonydus said:
anyway, i have this chick right, i mean she says she loves me. k lemme give u a background of what she's like. she's over dramatic n likes to push peoples buttons especially mine. she'l say sumthing nice then sumthing totally off the map. she says she loves me yet id speak to her n she'l say she cant talk to me cos she doesnt have anything 2 say 2 me n if she tells me sumthing i end up lecturing her. fok all i do is sympathize and try to understand her n make her see the bright side of it. she even says she thankful that i try 2 make her see the positive cos i am optimistic naturally. but i dnt get it, y give me such mixed signals. k fair enuff we cant date cos we had abit of a run in with drugs n her mother lol.

like now for example, she fones n i start busting her n shes like every1s gettn on her nerves n im annoying n i mus jus go do my work n she puts the fone down. so i fone back n im like why u such a drama queen n blah blah n she jus acts weird n says stupid things then she tells me again go do my work so i tell her **** off if u dnt want 2 speak 2 me n i cut the call.

so y the hell does she deliberately say stupid things that contradict how she feels unless he maybe tells me her feelings wen she is vulnerable o looking for attention. i honestly dnt get it with this chick, maybe she takes me for granted n thinks im a toy she can easily push cos wen i push back she'l get angry or frustrated. like she'l say im an idiot n ill say "but u cant resist ur attraction for me" then she'l b like shutup dnt make urself feel important n i'll b like "i dont, i got u 2 do it 4 me" then she'l say sumthing stupid lol. but wat the hell do i do? i wana make her desire me but i think i get 2 wussy at times n she senses it n pushes my buttons.
Fvcking use proper english.

What are you 12?

Why are you sympathizing for her? You are being AFC. She is WHINING about her problems and you sit there and pretend to care hoping to get into her pants.

Doesn't work.

No more Mr Nice guy, no more sympathizing about stupid problems.

Remember, nice guys finish last.
 

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yeah, good point. It's good to let her talk about herself, but not about her problems.
 

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yeh fo sho. I have read the bible, but ages ago. I must read it again. But for now, what should I do, I need to up my game and increase her interest level. At first, I just wanted to bang her but she started getting to me and I started liking her and I think I let my emotions control me. I just need to make her chase me or just give her the impression she doesnt get to me and that I don't really need her. I cant figure her out yet I still put myself in the position to get shot down. We'll be cool for a day or two where theres intense chem and things are flowing better than bicardi but the rest of the week she's all distant and flakey. When we chat, she just gives me one-liners and I end up talking and making the effort like a jackass.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

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When we chat, she just gives me one-liners and I end up talking and making the effort like a jackass.
Low IL, lack of common interests, or both


I have read the bible, but ages ago. I must read it again.
Write the precepts of Pook upon your heart and you will never go wrong!


I just need to make her chase me or just give her the impression she doesnt get to me and that I don't really need her.
That's a good starting point, but what you REALLY need to do is stop needing her and have enough going on in your life that she doesn't get to you.


We'll be cool for a day or two where theres intense chem and things are flowing better than bicardi but...
don't hang out with her more than twice a week max. And no consecutive days!
 

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Leonydus said:
... drama queen ... looking for attention.
Haha, Leonydus, if she's a Sandton poppie then she probbably is a attention seeking drama queen!!

Leonydus said:
so y the hell does she deliberately say stupid things that contradict how she feels
Shes female


Well, I'm not sure what to advise you, but I know I used to be like that, let a chick push my buttons and reel me back and forth as the mood struck, which I know see as a need for attention/validation. I'm not like that any more, and its strange once you aware of it you can see it happening with other people.

I'd say just don't let her stress you out, if she's full of it the f**k her, take a break from her cr*p and do something more useful with your time, its not worth getting in a knot over it.
 

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yeh the bible gave me insight so i need read it again and change my state of mind from being such a loser to the proper spartan king.

yeh u know about 2 weeks I just flipped out and said Fok It and not bothered to come online to chat or txt or fone and wenever she would i'd just ignore it n she was chasing me like a fat kid for a cup cake. I was on a high cos i had all these things i wanted to start in my life like cycling and wat wat but then she fones again n i said let me give her a little taste of me and then b aloof again but sadly i fell after i spoke cos she kept saying she misses me like crazy and she loves me n that it seems like i don't miss her or care n i just said "one of those things i guess." then i started slowly giving in like a fool and im back where i started cos like u said i started needing her again which i need to stop.
 

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lol afc_2_dj whats cracking man. How are things, monday blues yoh. Yeh this chick is more of a centurion thingamabob. Man she's really confused. She loves her mind games. She'll say the most blatant insincere thing on purpose just to create tension. I just need to change my mind set and not let her get 2 me. And thats wats confusing cos i don't know how with all this B.S.
 

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Leonydus said:
yeh the bible gave me insight so i need read it again and change my state of mind from being such a loser to the proper spartan king.

yeh u know about 2 weeks I just flipped out and said Fok It and not bothered to come online to chat or txt or fone and wenever she would i'd just ignore it n she was chasing me like a fat kid for a cup cake. I was on a high cos i had all these things i wanted to start in my life like cycling and wat wat but then she fones again n i said let me give her a little taste of me and then b aloof again but sadly i fell after i spoke cos she kept saying she misses me like crazy and she loves me n that it seems like i don't miss her or care n i just said "one of those things i guess." then i started slowly giving in like a fool and im back where i started cos like u said i started needing her again which i need to stop.
That guy you wanna be is actually 'Leonidas'.
 

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lol yeh i know thats how you spell it. I just wanted to change it a bit. Poetic license i guess.
 

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lol, Centurion chicks are serious flakes, trust me on this one, I've tried a bunch of them! :)

Its rough when they try mind games, women, can't live with them cant' live without them. Bad thing is when its someone you're hot for its really hard not to let it get to you. I think the guys are right on this one, just cut a break from her, if you don't what will happen is you'll take her s**t again and again until eventually u break and say screw it and move on, and that could take years!! Been there!
 

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ok, i've tried google and wikipedia but I give up: what is a centurion chick?
 
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