"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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what the heck is my problem?

makemyday

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Hi everyone,

Long time lurker here, but there's something that's bothered me and I thought maybe somebody here might have some idea.

I have reason to believe there is something going on with me similar to bipolar disorder, but to a much lesser extent.

It could be because I'm only 20 and I became aware of something a year ago, so it could be that I've caught it before it had a chance to develop.

I thought maybe I had "cyclothymia", but even now I read the definitions and the symptoms, and they are more extreme than what I have.

I have a solid head on my shoulders. My confidence and mood used to shift along with my body, but I have sorted that stuff out- mostly. It's hard to be at your best all the time when you don't know how you're going to feel from day to day.

What I'm talking about are entirely physical sensations. For example, I'll swing from very tired, cloudy mind, and prone to negative thoughts, to a "hypomanic" stage, which simply consists of a sensation of adrenaline (a buzzing feeling in my head), an increased desire to socialize, colors seem brighter, and this type of thing. After this "buzzed" feeling, which lasts for a day to a week, it is followed by mental lethargy, cloudiness, and not feeling like doing anything.

I want to feel normal all the time.

A few weeks ago, I realized I wasn't imagining things and that there was a real issue here, so I made a list of things to do. I started running every day, did stretches every morning, and etc. I also do push ups and pull ups, and take omega-3. Although these seem to have helped, I am still experiencing these symptoms.

The so-called "hypomanic" stages are sometimes disturbing because they make it difficult to concentrate on a thing. I've tried doing a ton of jumping jacks when it comes on, with some success. But obviously you can't do that in the middle of a meeting when you feel it coming on.

Does anyone know of any other things I could be doing (other than taking drugs) to stabilize my body somehow?

Thanks.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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runner83

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Dude, everyone has highs and lows, but that is crazy.

You won't get help on here. I think you need to see a doctor of some sort about this.

I don't mean this in a judgmental way, but mental illness is no different to physical illness - you can't help if you have it, and there is sometimes treatment available.

Good luck!
 

Neon Owl

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The best thing for you is to go see your doctor. I highly doubt anyone here can give you any worthwhile advice on this.

I wish you the best of luck with this man. I really hope you feel better soon!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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