"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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what the fvck to do

godjwood

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got this girl, shes ****ing with me hardcore.

she comes over, hooks up with me. i ttell her how shes gotta stop ****ing with me all the time cause its driving me crazy and shes gotta make a choice if she wants to be with me or not. i dont know what her deal is, she told me shes afraid of commitment so all she does is **** around with random dudes hook up a few times and find a new dude
the thing is ive known her for a long time and weve been only good friends til recently. and i know no matter what i do this girl cant deal with not talking to me.

i care about this girl so much and all i want is to be with her.
its a horrible cycle we will have the where is this going conv and shell be like i cant do this right now etc etc... then ill get poed stop talking to her for like a month then she coems back to me says she wants to give it a chance... then as soon as she has my attention again shell flake out again and the cycle will repeat.

i know all you are gonna say fvck this girl shes not worth your time. but i got the whole emmotional thing going im ****ing obsessed with this girl and i have a hard time letting her go too.

shes basically told me she expects me to wait around for when shes done ****ign around and that she knows we will be in a long term relationship but shes not ready. buti cant stand her ****ing around in hte mean time.

shes basically trying ot control me.

if ignoring her isnt working, and either is giving her attention, what the hell should i do?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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So pimp its scary

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"This is your last chance... if you don't try to make it work this time, don't bother coming back."

or simply "I'm tired of your fvcking games... get out of my life, you aren't allowed here anymore."
 

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i did do that... last time i was hooking up w/ her she told me that she was hooking up with another guy... i got pissed i said im not kissing you again til you tell me were going ot be exclusive.. and she kept trying ot make me kiss her but i said no. i said this is your last chance i gotta have you either in or out of my life. and i said think about it and when you make your decision i will give you that kiss.

the problem is she is stubborn too; there is no way she is going to give in to what i want.

its a lose/lose situation.

i think its like a control war.
 

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Originally posted by godjwood
got this girl, shes ****ing with me hardcore.
i care about this girl so much and all i want is to be with her.
its a horrible cycle we will have the where is this going conv and shell be like i cant do this right now etc etc... then ill get poed stop talking to her for like a month then she coems back to me says she wants to give it a chance... then as soon as she has my attention again shell flake out again and the cycle will repeat.

i know all you are gonna say fvck this girl shes not worth your time. but i got the whole emmotional thing going im ****ing obsessed with this girl and i have a hard time letting her go too.

shes basically told me she expects me to wait around for when shes done ****ign around and that she knows we will be in a long term relationship but shes not ready. buti cant stand her ****ing around in hte mean time.

shes basically trying ot control me.
Dude, read the words you wrote 10000 times until it sinks in.

WHAT THE *()$# ?

Do you WANT to be in this position or this is just you rationalizing so you do not face your fears and go get another woman (or go get SOME women for that matter) ??

I used to be you. I patiently waited until she "feels ready". HAHA. Man, what I chump I was.

And you said you know we were going to get harsh on you, but you "care about her". Dude, CARE ABOUT YOU FOR A CHANGE!

Seriously, do NOT get into this. NEXT HER NOW. I'm trying to save you a lot of grief. Now the choice is yours.
 
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