"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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what the fvck is wrong with me

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dj_jazzybrad

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I'll just get straight to it:
I don't desire sex. I love making out, anything else, but sex... just doesn't hold and desire for me. If a girl literally said to me "dude please screw my brains out right here right now" id be like "naw..." and make up some excuse. I feel bad letting girls down when we're making out, I'm going down on her, shes wet, and when she's ready for it, I'M the one not putting out.
I doubt it but... is this a problem for anyone else?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Bawb14

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Well, how old are you? Also, have you tried men? that might solve your "problem"
 
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do these girls that you're hooking up with turn you on? Have you considered that they're maybe too easy and you subconsciously prefer a challenge? Or maybe you might only get in the right mood for sex with a girl you care about, like a long term girlfriend or something. I'm not sure... I know I've never had this problem unless the girl grosses me out, in which i wouldn't be hooking up with her to begin with lol..or if she's too drunk and i feel like its not right (unless im also that drunk) =o
 
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pimpinISeasy said:
do these girls that you're hooking up with turn you on? Have you considered that they're maybe too easy and you subconsciously prefer a challenge? Or maybe you might only get in the right mood for sex with a girl you care about, like a long term girlfriend or something. I'm not sure... I know I've never had this problem unless the girl grosses me out, in which i wouldn't be hooking up with her to begin with lol..or if she's too drunk and i feel like its not right (unless im also that drunk) =o
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No man, its none of those things. The girls i hook up with are all hot, girls any guy would be lucky to be inside... it's just sex isnt attractive to me.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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do you watch a lot of porn? or don`t watch enough porn? are you religious, and maybe you feel it`s a sin, if not consciously, then subconsciously?

the latter one is actually happening to me , i think.
 
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MisterMcGee

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small penis? = self consciousness = sex is not something you look forward to?
maybe anxiety is killing the fun
 
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jeffthechef

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you're putting girls on a pedastool...that might be it

before, i use to feel the same away only about girls i had oneitis for...they were too eprfect for me to ****...so i wouldn't fantasize bout that ****...

but after finally getting rid of oneitis...took a couple months (it doesn't go away after 1 or 2 months of coming to this site like so many people claim..cause they're probably not actually changing but only believe it)
..anyways..after my oneitis was gone...i wouldn't mind banging her like any other girl

stop consecrating girls..
 
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Darth_Qurashi said:
do you watch a lot of porn? or don`t watch enough porn? are you religious, and maybe you feel it`s a sin, if not consciously, then subconsciously?

the latter one is actually happening to me , i think.
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I think it could be the latter one for me as well. I'm not religious, but my parents are very, very religious. Of course they ingrained their values into me when I was younger, and I think that could definately be it. I was always taught that sex before marriage was wrong, but I thought I had significantly moved away from that. Thanks for the tip, any suggestions on how to work on it?
 
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TheBucketOfTruth

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dj_jazzybrad said:
I think it could be the latter one for me as well. I'm not religious, but my parents are very, very religious. Of course they ingrained their values into me when I was younger, and I think that could definately be it. I was always taught that sex before marriage was wrong, but I thought I had significantly moved away from that. Thanks for the tip, any suggestions on how to work on it?
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That definitely could be a factor. Just keep in mind that in God's eyes (I'll try to type that w/o laughing), going down on a girl before marriage probably isn't that different than having sex with her. You've already done genital stimulation, so the next step is only a big deal if you make it one. Have you gotten BJs? If yes, what I've said only rings more true.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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first of all, i've only been with 2 girls.
so i'm that that experienced, but to me, both these girls were hot at first, but then when they became too easy and too available, i lost interest and couldn't do anything sexual with them unless i was really really horny.
like at first, i was nervous around them, but now i ignore them for some reason...
it's annoying really, cause i feel bad about it.
does that sound like ur problem?
like you go after them cause they're hot, but when you get them, you become totally turned off?
 
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