What? The? F u c k?

[James Bondage]

Hey guys whats up, I dont really post here all that often but lately I have been experiencing a very strange phenomenon with a girl and wanted to find out if any of you guys have experienced anything similar.

OK so I've read the DJ Bible and all that, I know that female logic (if you can call it that) is crazy and their behaviour isn't really supposed to make a whole lot of sense, but even so this is quite literally off the scale of the IREALLYDONTGETITWHATTHEF UCKISTHEMATTERWITHYOU-Ometer.

Basically I have been flirting back and forth with this girl.. long story short.. she is a friend of a friend and we all went out a couple of months back.. had a laugh etc, hit it off well, pulled her and since then became Facebook friends to keep in touch. So far, so good.

It's nothing serious, she's not a one-itis or anything like that and really I'm only using her as 'practice' material, or as a minor plate, so I really am indifferent to the outcome of this. But even so.. her behaviour has confused me to the point I really want to scream 'WHAT? THE? F UCK?', find out what is going on in that ****ed up head of hers, and most scary of all, find out if this is actually a common thing among women or not.

So anyway we have been poking each other on a daily basis (only in the Facebook way, alas) for a good couple of months now. She had occasionally written on my wall and that, so it would seem safe to assume that things are all good. There is some interest there anyway.

A couple of weeks ago, she sent me a private message, something like 'Hey hun! How are u?'. So naturally, I replied back, something like 'Hey! Yeah I'm good thanks, and u?'... something like that anyway.

What was her reply to that? Nothing. O...K... so I thought.. OK maybe she didn't see my question, she didn't realise I was expecting her to reply.. maybe she was busy.. whatever. Not important, I thought. I got over it.

Still she carries on poking me consistently on facebook. Constantly... like whenever I login in it would say 'You were poked by **girl**'. Every time. So as far as I could see this was a pretty good IOI.

Fast forward to a month later (now). She sends me another message out of the blue, basically saying 'Oioi hun!! How r u?' so naturally, once again, I reply with something like 'Yeah I'm good... blah blah blah... how r u?'

Again.... NOTHING!! :crazy:

Well she must have seen my question this time I thought, she just hasn't bothered to respond. So about a day later I sent another message, on the same thread.. 'R u there?'

To which, literally a minute later, I got a response.. 'Yeah. R u?'

:crazy:

Confused, I replied again the next day with 'Yeah. So how r u then??' (the f*cking third time I had asked this)

Guess what?!? NOTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

WHAT THE F U C K WOMAN?!? :cuss: :cuss: :cuss:

WTF is the matter with her?? Surely I thought the basic point of a conversation, that even a three-year old understands, is that if someone asks you a question, you are supposed to answer it?!?

I don't get it... at all....

Now before you think I care too much about this... I really don't.. in my mind I have said to myself.. 'f*** that b****.. I don't have time for this s***'. I no longer poke her every day, I'm certainly not sending any more messages.. cut off all contact, in short I have basically nexted her.

In true DJ-style I am rewarding her according to her actions. Because she is being bloody weird, I am essentially treating her like a weirdo and no longer contacting her.

So in other words I really don't care about the outcome of this very much. I could care less whether I hear from her again.

But I would like to find out if anyone has experienced any similar behaviour in other women, or have I really found a class A nutjob here? I know women's actions sometimes leave you scratching your head wondering WTF.. but I think this particularly lady really has excelled herself in weirdness this time.

Or is this kind of thing fairly normal? I appreciate your replies, thanks.

 

[decades]

dude you are messing with grade A certified Attention Hor. She got what she needed out of you and then moved on to another victim. She may be back, if she "needs" you again, so don't despair. You may have been ONE of scores of other guys she is "nudging". Finally, online social networks are a feeding ground for AWs. They rejoiced in unison the day Al Gore invented the Internet.

 

[Latinoman]

Facebook...how old are you? 16?

 

[Colossus]

Facebook is the thing in college. It can work to your advantage if you use it well. Myspace is garbage, IMO...but once you are out of college those things start to phase out.

In response to the OP, why are you even getting slightly razzled by this tramp? So she she didnt respond to your query. Are you in a relationship? Forget her. If a woman/girl doesnt respond to a message i either blow it off or disregard them. Ive been down that road wayyy too many times.

 

[Warrior74]

Fido

 

[MacAvoy]

Your biggest mistake is trying to carry on a relationship via ONLY facebook. I'm not going to get on the anti-facebook wagon but if you never have any real life contact in person or via phone with a person, then how do you expect to build rapport and keep attraction building? Poking someone on facebook isn't going to cause her to remember the great times you showed her.

Secondly and more importantly a "how are you" or a "and you" is pretty freakin boring and its no wonder she ignores it. Have a little more creativity in your conversation, don't be a boring drone like everyone else.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Secondly and more importantly a "how are you" or a "and you" is pretty freakin boring and its no wonder she ignores it. Have a little more creativity in your conversation, don't be a boring drone like everyone else.

Yeah, the onus is on you to entertain the wh0re. Throw a couple of pictures up with real-looking fake tatoos too. They love tatoos because it brings you down to their level, I don't know why. They like Harleys too rent one and get a picture on it. Get a picture with you drinking a whole pitcher of beer too, they like self destruction, and goofy sh1t like that to laugh at.

 

[Omen]

I've had this happen ONCE, and I asked a friend of mine if I could contact so and so because I didnt get to talk to her because the wedding reception was too loud, and just not right. She was like yeah, you can after X amount of time cause she is going through family crap. So I waited and asked my friend... Is it ok for me to talk to her now? So I told her to tell her this and that, and then I got NOTHING back from the girl.

About 3 weeks later she added me as a friend out of the blue. I was like hey... hope your spring break went well, and things are going good. I then told her how I had wanted to talk to her more at the wedding reception but didnt have the time and the setting was too loud.

It was about a paragraph. I sent it, and I got about a sentence and a half back.

What did I do.... I said...I dont need a girl who cant talk and can only say one and a half sentences. So I haven't said anything back since, and I wont, and oh well.

In my example, I had actually said quite a bit, and got not much back. I was done after that. If she is interested, i'll get something back. I dont waste my time.

For YOU, you dont seem to say much to one another, so what do you expect? Want the true test, write something where she NEEDS to actually respond to get her point across. If you make it like... blah blah and the only response you get is a "yeah" then it wasn't enough.

If you write something worthwhile and still get the same "yeah".... MOVE ON.

Point: DONT WASTE YOUR TIME

 

[Truebrit]

Aw Alert

This one looks pretty simple:

1. Classic AW behaviour. She can pick you up and put you down and obviously loves it. I can tell you know that as you have let this progress that far.

2. Low IL level - not sure when this began but you have exasperated this by making the same mistakes with your reply. If anything this has know dropped through the floor.

3. Your initial reponse was about the lamest you could offer - pretty much "how are you?" - this also mirrors what she has said so are you letting her take the lead? Thats never wise. When a chic asks you this ALWAYS come back with something positive - its not showing off it shows that you are positive and have good things going on in your life.

4. I will agree what others have said here in that Facebook all attract AWs - in fact generally there is a direct relationship between how may friends they have on there (I mean some have live 300+) and how much of a AW they are.

5. You "pulled" her - you kissed her - good - then why are you lowering the social interaction (and your worth as a mate) to Facebook messages (which is lower than text which is already low)? You have relegated yourself in the pecking order already to all the other wannabe chumps fighting for her affections on Facebook - most of whom she has never met. Try to build on any advancements you make with a chic not go back to the drawing board - its liek one step forward two legs back. AVOID texts and emails anyway - call her on the phone its (apart from face to face) the most powerfull method of communicating.

Remember its about moving things forward - ABC - Always Be Closing! Cheesy but true!

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Screw it. Just ask her out via facebook.

What have you got to lose?

 

[joekerr31]

Facebook...how old are you? 16?

aside from latino's comments, which i totally agree with

she was only saying 'hi' to gauge your interest. you are one of her 'orbiters' in her mind.

also keep in mind, and ive said this countless times, WOMEN LOVE DRAMA! now, some of them have learned to only let good drama into their lives, but many don't discern between good and bad drama.

so not replying to you, she knows, is bound to stir up drama at some point.

this chic is an attention wh*re as others have said.

anyway, after the first time she ignored you, the second time you should have replied with 'sorry, can't talk, catch ya later.'

then she probably would have gone from 'pull this guys strings' drama, to 'oh im not on a pedastal with you? we'll see about that!' drama.

anyway, aside from getting upset you're handling this ok. just move on to other chics. not that complicated.

 

[Nighthawk]

Echo most advice, how are you? + fine, how r u? is more of a friendly check in than a conversation. Try and be more charming, interesting and funny from the start. And if she doesn't respond in kind, forget her.

 

[drmeathead]

ask her to meet up in real life. if she asks why tell her you want to be able to look at her beautiful smile as you make her laugh all night. if she says anything but yes ignore her. she messages you again...ask her out again. either she will say yes or begin to figure it the **** out that you want to talk to her face to face only. dont chat away with her over facebook messages.

 

[kingwilliam]

I have experienced similar situations using MySpace. Basically, AW's like her log on to MS or FB everyday to squelch their thirst for attention. I have girls on my "friends list" or whatever who will send me messages all the time that are literally word for word the same. i.e. "how are ya? whatcha been up to?...blah, blah, blah......"

Its all the same bull****.

If you are interested in this girl then do what everyone else has said and call her up and ask her out. It will be unexpected and it will suddenly put you in the driver's seat. If she says no then immediately move on to someone else.

Facebook and Myspace are nothing more than a way to keep track of a bunch of people that you may or may not even know. The only way to truly pick up women is the old fashion way.

 

[James Bondage]

Thanks for all the responses guys, and to be honest I'm inclined to agree with most of you - she is an attention wh0re, and facebook isn't really the best way of doing things.

Perhaps I'd better point out however that Facebook isn't really my normal modus operandi, and I really don't give a flying......... er, hoot what this girl thinks (if I didn't make that clear before). She is merely practice material.

Really what annoyed me is the fact that she didn't even bother responding. I've had it a couple of times in the past, you send someone a message, and then... nothing.

Well I'm so terribly sorry for her that I wasn't able to fulfil her standards of interesting conversation. I forgot I was there to entertain her every need. F*cks sake. She can kiss my big fat hairy :moon:

And she was the one who contacted me first! Oh well, just another f***ed-up-in-the-head h0. I guess the lesson guys can learn from this here is if you can spot AW behaviour a mile away, run for the hills!!!!

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EDIT - To the guy above who just recently posted.. you are exactly right.. that's all it is, meaningless bullsh*t. If you want to truly get anywhere with women the only way is to get out there in the real world.