"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What the f%$K is up with this bleeping..

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of words on this site??? Isnt this supposed to be a place where guys can come to talk about women??? And dont most guys swear and use slang to talk about women?? What is this place, romper room?? My god we are on the internet talking about how to get *****, not in church talking about how to treat thy neighbor!! Does anyone else agree with me?? Am I wrong here??
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Part of DJism is learning how to have class

It may be a man's site, but a DJ is in control of his language, too. He's classy and well-spoken. It's best to try and practice that in print, too.

You are what you practice on a daily basis. Work on your language in print and spoken and you'll be just that.

DJism isn't about 90 percent of what most think on this board: winning back stupid women who dump them, or some little technique, or how to go "clubbing" or whatever -- or as you put it, getting p-ssy. The foundation of it is trying to be the best you can be with or without a woman and a lot of that starts with having some class in life. This site is NOT about being obsessed with women, as most of you think it is. Quit having women dictate your lives, get off the message board and read some articles on this site!

Look, I drop some 'f' bombs with my friends now and then, but that's about it. It's best to write without crass.
 

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If you can't handle communicating without obscenities, you should start to learn...Although I agree it can be difficult to not use slang...
 

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Look, Im not saying that you cant talk with or write with some class. What Im saying is that most guys dont talk or write like they just came from the local tea at the Harvard Social Club. This is a place where guys talk about women, they should be free to talk about it how they wish. What is this, Iraq???
 

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Just work on your language

It's not Iraq, but we are here to actually improve ourselves. Just delete certain letters out of words. You are what you practice on a daily basis and if you let the floodgates open this will be one big f-bomb fest.

By the way, most guys I know who are constantly dropping cuss words are the biggest AFCs I know.

Also, a DJ isn't lazy. It takes no thought or work to write cuss words. It takes some kind of thought or reflection to write something else and get the same point across. Again, DJism is a constant work in progress, not just learning some stupid trick at a bar. You'll be better off if you work on your writing, trust me on this.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I have nothing against general swearing but refering to females every single post or posts at all as h0es or hors is getting really annoying.
 

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Originally posted by Jay Fiedler
of words on this site??? Isnt this supposed to be a place where guys can come to talk about women??? And dont most guys swear and use slang to talk about women?? What is this place, romper room?? My god we are on the internet talking about how to get *****, not in church talking about how to treat thy neighbor!! Does anyone else agree with me?? Am I wrong here??
1) Suggestion forum

2) This question has been done to death

3) What do YOU need curse words for? Are the ones we have not strong enough for your blasting of Pap? :rolleyes:
 

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Censor the curses

I am all for censoring the curses out because I wouldn't be able to access this site from work! God knows this isn't the job of my dreams, and there is alot of downtime so this DJ apprentice can do some research. ;)
 

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Oh, dont get me wrong, I like a good "Pap Smear"...hahaha, pardon me, I like to Smear Pap, as much as ever, tadedadada.....
 

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Dissenting view...

I'm actually in favor of the board censorship. Some of the words that are censored are a bit odd, because they aren't profanity, but hey, the moderators can set any standard they want.
A previous poster correctly pointed out that reducing/eliminating profanity is a good DJ trait. I agree - an occasional swear word at the right time makes the point come across, but "f" this and "f" that gets tiresome, even to the person using such language.
At one time, I thought people circumventing the censor would be banned, which would have made sense too - or at least including the variations on the censor list.
Look, you can't go wrong with women by being polished and articulate. Gutter language is neutral at best, and an outright turnoff at worst.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Bottom line for me:

Keep the censor in place because some filters get rid of sites with horrible sexual content and foul language. If we want this site to reach as many as possible, we have to avoid filters, some high school kids' parents have filters on their computers.
 

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I think a big part of it is that SoSuave.com gets sponsorship from a bunch of people/sites and those groups may not feel good about sponsoring a site where every other word is "p*ssy", "c*nt", "f*ck" or "b*tch". Which can happen especially with some of the clowns talking in ghetto-speak.

The other thing is that a lot of the flame language ends up being used to flame people or otherwise degrade women. If you're gonna be a "Don Juan," show some class. I cuss a lot in my speech naturally, but when I'm around a woman, I try to check it. (I'll let one fly every now and then, though, to show her my balls still hang low :D )
 

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if you allow the language--you're going to get it. the posts will quickly degrade to FVCK this, WH@RE that.

by having a price (e.g. misspelling the bad language as above), at least you minimize the chances of degradation.

keep the filters.
 

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if you allow the language--you're going to get it. the posts will quickly degrade to FVCK this, WH@RE that.

by having a price to pay (e.g. misspelling the bad language as above), at least you minimize the chances of degradation.

keep the filters.

i'm much more worried about the absolutely pathetically slow load up times. sometimes it takes 10 minutes, if at all.
 

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if you allow the language--you're going to get it. the posts will quickly degrade to FVCK this, WH@RE that.

by having a price to pay (e.g. misspelling the bad language as above), at least you minimize the chances of degradation.

keep the filters.

i'm much more worried about the absolutely pathetically slow load up times. sometimes it takes 10 minutes, if at all.

(like how long it just took to submit this reply).
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Tell me what there is to gain and tell me how those benefits outweigh the possibilities of young children coming here, flame wars getting nastier, immaturity being encouraged, and whatever else might happen. Then more people might support you.
 
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