What Surprised You The Most About Dating Women in your 40s?

[The Duke]

And that summed up my journey and what I'm trying to fight very well.
Although I see many married and committed couples maintaining their ego, control, at the expense of this authenticity, I suffer.

Simply by becoming an authentic person, in the same way, you become very vulnerable and give others the opportunity to hurt you: you are giving them the sword.


In fact, the biggest problem, especially for a man who must not show weakness, is to open up and become honest in this way, authentic you say, after all the times he has been pierced by the same sword he has given to others.

Pain. The problem is that you want to be an authentic person in a society made of ego and you will suffer so much, too much.
How to tell a man that he can and must love a person, and then that person hurts him, then, since he has respect for himself, he closes and will find another person.
That person will also hurt him, and then he will repeat the process.
In this case, there will be a tendency to choude, to lose authenticity, in favor of strategies to manipulate people, ego, and build a wall.

But it is only when you are authentic that you feel really good and in line with life, but when people hurt you you have to have the strength to do something, beyond the fact that you will feel pain and it will hurt.
I'm sure the greatest men have found a way to be authentic here and that can be summed up in a few words, authenticity and respect. If you don't respect me, I'm not cynical, but you take advantage of my authenticity, and you're out of my life.

Never be 100% authentic to everyone. Most can't handle the truth. Expecting your lover to is a big mistake. Its why men can't express themselves fully and usually don't. Its not because we don't want to, its because you get tired of it being used against you and learn its best not to. Women get away with it. Its called being emotional/dramatic when they do it. Its weakness when a man does.

 

[Sega Genesis]

Praying for you and sending you good vibes. Let us know the results of the biopsy asap

I echo @Dr.Suave... good luck Be. Fingers crossed.

 

[jhonny9546]

Its called being emotional/dramatic when they do it.

This is a "way" on how you do it.
If you are "100% authentic" in a mature and masculine way, I do bet any good women out there to not appreaciate that.

You can be 80% authentic but you will always feel there is something missing.
You don't want to live in a cognitive dissonance.

 

[Sega Genesis]

Just today I had a weird little spot on the back of my shoulder scooped for biopsy. Maybe its something; maybe its not.

Hi BE, just checking in on this^^, have you gotten the results yet?

I hope it was nothing and that all is well...happy holidays!

 

[BeExcellent]

Hi BE, just checking in on this^^, have you gotten the results yet?

I hope it was nothing and that all is well...happy holidays!

I suppose not, lol. They said they'd call if it was anything, so no news is good news...but we've had the holiday weekend too. By next week I can confirm but I'm pretty chill about the whole thing.

Thanks for asking.

 

[CaptFinnBad]

How many women have never been fvcked properly in their life, or at least have had very few such instances and it's been a long time since they have.

It's a very high percentage.

And once they experience someone who can you are like catnip to a cat for them.

Lol this is actually really accurate

 

[ludovic991]

"dating/hooking up actually gets easier the older i get" - honestly yeah. It's the confidence difference. You stop giving a damn about the game part of it and that's exactly what works. I noticed this shift right around 40 too. Takes the pressure off everything.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Lol this is actually really accurate

More like heroin if the chick has clinger tendencies. Ugh.

 

[Solomon]

"dating/hooking up actually gets easier the older i get" - honestly yeah. It's the confidence difference. You stop giving a damn about the game part of it and that's exactly what works. I noticed this shift right around 40 too. Takes the pressure off everything.

YOu are on point but your age says you're 28 heh