"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What should my reaction be if any?

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Essentially working in the club tonight, and my fwb is in. See's me and is all over me, etc etc.

Throughout the night she's getting with a couple other guys and I'm easy with it. It's not my place to be pissed off, she's not my girlfriend, we just **** and chat ****.

So I laugh it off for the most of the night, then she comes up to me and is like let's go home together. I tell her I can't cuz I gotta cleanup and won't be out till gone 4 in the morning but I can give her my keys and she can go back to mine and sleep etc. as who wouldn't want to finish a hard shift at work to come back to a girl waiting in his bed? ;)

Anyways that doesn't happen and I see her leave the club with another guy.

Once again, it's not my place to get pissed off as we're not exclusive and I will **** other girls given half a chance. It did bug a bit however as I was angling for her to be waiting in my bed etc.

So I ask you, what should be my reaction when I see her tomorrow?

Indifferent and casual? Ask how the other guy was in bed? :crackup:
Or just let it go?

Reading this back tomorrow I'd probably say let it go but I'm interested in what others have to say.
 

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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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samspade said:
Indifferent. Always. It's a man's best weapon.

She may have "walked out the door" with him just to get a rise out of you. Or, maybe not. Either way, like you said, in a FWB situation, all's fair.

If she even brings it up, just say you didn't notice. If she goes on about him, say something funny/indifferent like "sounds like you two would make a terrific couple." Again, you MUST be indifferent - not butthurt. That is if you want to keep her as a plate. If you're put off by her behavior, just pull way back and drop her.
This^

If your going the route of "spinning multiple plates" or just having "fwb" its imperative that you dont develop any more attachment than just the sex. What happens a lot...is guys think they want the playa lifestyle and want to bang mad broads. Then they see a plate do exactly as they did in this story...and they get mad(not saying you did). They then realize they like her more than they thought. This fvcks up everything....

Just giving a fair warning. Keep fwb as fwb(sex only; expect nothing)...dont blur the line and make them more than they are.
 

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Fair enough guys, she text me this morning apologising for her behaviour last night and I was like we're fine, forget about it and now she's back to long delays to replying to texts.

I'm almost done with this girl, fast running out of patience
 

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Mauser96 said:
Guess what? YOU are one of HER plates!

Can you see how that is the case?

If you like being a plate, carry on, if not, delete her number.
Everybody is somebody's plate mate, it works both ways which is what I said in my original post.
What im thinking now is that if little things like this are bugging how long till it gets worse?

I'm thinking of quitting while I'm ahead at this rate
 

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When she said if you wanted to go home together, you should've said yes.

Assume the sale.

You shouldn't have brought up how late you had to stay, let her be the one to say she didn't want to wait that long etc.

She probably wouldn't have waited, but the point being, don't assume that the time you had to stay would be an obstacle.

She text you to get rid of the guilt she felt and now that she knows your cool, she is back to doing her thing.

You need a bit of time away from her to get your head back on straight and seeing her as the piece of @ss that she is, rather than something more.








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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If a girl texts to apologize, make a joke about punishing or spanking her or something. Keep it sexual - that way the tension is maintained and you're not even admitting that she did something that bothered you. By saying "it's ok, forget about it" you're letting her know it got under your skin.

The minute a girl starts taking a long time to reply to my texts, the 2:1 rule comes into effect - I take twice as long to reply as she does. That usually solves it.
 

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Pimp-sicle said:
When she said if you wanted to go home together, you should've said yes.

Assume the sale.

You shouldn't have brought up how late you had to stay, let her be the one to say she didn't want to wait that long etc.

She probably wouldn't have waited, but the point being, don't assume that the time you had to stay would be an obstacle.

She text you to get rid of the guilt she felt and now that she knows your cool, she is back to doing her thing.

You need a bit of time away from her to get your head back on straight and seeing her as the piece of @ss that she is, rather than something more.








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Sage words pimp, after this weekend I won't see her for a good week and a half which suits me fine.

And noheroes, putting your 2:1 suggestion in place right now :)
 

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Mauser96 said:
Let us know how it goes, ok?
You bet fella, she's picked up I'm off with her right now. Asked a mate if everything was ok, and said 'what is my and dan's dynamic?" **** knows what she's thinking or means with that.

Anyways she's over for a 'catchup' tomorrow so we'll see what happens...
 

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I agree with others about the text. She knows she can do it again now.

You got to remember girls want ANY type of attention, good or bad. You say anything about last night/defend yourself/get angry/throw a fit/get emotional, she knows she has DONE her job.

Stay away for a while. The only reason you should be talking to any girl is to:

1) have sex with her
2) get her to do something for you

Any other talking with a girl is a waste of time. :rock:
 

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This girl sounds as loose as a cannon.

I'd chuck her aside like the fodder that she is.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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Don't worry about what a plate does. Plates are used for fuching and nothing more. Fuch her when you can and let her be.
 
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