"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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what should i say during this talk?

toddC

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okay, so the girl i've been postin about lately and i are having a talk about our relationship...now im a litle nervous cause although ive goten with her like 5 times i'm just unsure if she feels the same way i feel about her...anyways...what should i say like im really into her but i dont want to make it seem like im beggin her to go out with me or anything i just wanna seem smooth u no? help me out :)

**UPDATE**

Okay, so since you guys took SOOOOO long to answer lol kidding...I talked to her anyways. I pretty much was liek so what do you wanna do and she was liek well right now i dont want to be tied down but i do like u and i like hangin with u and then she was liek lets just see where it goes arite? and i tried to act chill abuot it and was liek yea i no what u mean i dont wanna be tied down either i just wanted to put it out in the open so were both on the like the same page...and then she asked me to hang tonight...now two things for u guys...a) do u think she was just trying to let me down easily? and b) what can i do next to move this relationship further in the shortest amount of time?
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Letting you down/Test, I do believe so.

To move the relationship foward, you should start talking to other women....in essence you will become less available to her and she'll find that to be appealing.
 

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Im no genius, but in order to be move the realtionship you have to be clear. Don't say you understand what she means when she says "I dont wanna be tied down" Tell her what you think instead of sendingher mixed signals.
 

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Originally posted by DJ4Real
Letting you down/Test, I do believe so.

To move the relationship foward, you should start talking to other women....in essence you will become less available to her and she'll find that to be appealing.
exactly what happend tonight...when she asked to hang out tonight i said yea probably...then i made complete other plans and she sat at home! like i felt bad but so happy at the same time. she ended up texting me towards the end of the night...what should i do next?
 

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Originally posted by toddC
exactly what happend tonight...when she asked to hang out tonight i said yea probably...then i made complete other plans and she sat at home! like i felt bad but so happy at the same time. she ended up texting me towards the end of the night...what should i do next?
I believe that now...you should wait until sometime tommorow to text her back.....just tell her that you were busy doing something...(don't tell her what you were doing)...Tell her that you'll give her a call sometime aswell.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yeah man you want to play a little hard to get... But not too hard because she'll think you're not interested. But careful! You don't wanna be caught in the "friends" zone! That can suck... If you get caught there, break off all contact her for a while... Then she'll realise what she's missing out on! Good luck buddy!
 

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well ive goten with her a few times and she wants to keep hangin to see wher it goes and not to rush into anything but 1 thing i didnt point out is that i texted HER first last night not the other way around...could that be hurting me?
 

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Originally posted by toddC
well ive goten with her a few times and she wants to keep hangin to see wher it goes and not to rush into anything but 1 thing i didnt point out is that i texted HER first last night not the other way around...could that be hurting me?
Certainly messes up the game plan a little...but it isn't drastic.
 
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