"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What should I do?

Spp27

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We I keep it short. Met a girl a work that keep talking to me like crazy always comes to me to go get food together ask me what I'm up to. Basicly I was a big nice guy and ruined it for myself thank to this website I know know what I did wrong and won't be that again. Lesson learned. Basically she has a boyfriend now asked her out. She led me on for a long time never told me she had one and never brought it up. That's why I decided to ask her out. Just want to know from you guys what I should do she still comes up to me to go for food and talks to me. What should I do don't want to keep getting played around or talk to her.
I have started looking online dating and moving on don't know if online is going to work out for me but step in the right direction. So what should I do with this chick that begs for my attention all the time. There's. No point she has a boyfriend not going to be a doormat and wait around if she going to break up or whatever.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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TheSplat

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You answered your own question. Don't be a doormat. Go find other girls. If she's genuinely interested, then the jealousy will spark behavior.
 

RangerMIke

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You did what you had to do you asked her out. She has a BF stop pursuing. Date other women and if she comes up to you be friendly don't take rejection personal. Don't get sucked into being her friend. If she mentions her boyfriend listen to what she says about him but don't offer an opinion. If she asks you a direct question about her BF then the only thing you should say is "Well... he must be a great guy if she is with you." Do not get sucked into BF bashing because then you turn into her male 'girlfriend'.

If and when she is available and she is interested in you she'll let you know. If that happens don't hesitate make a date and see what happens. Otherwise do not wait around for her... go find women that are available.
 

mangotot

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Do you enjoy her company as a friend? If so hang out with her otherwise do what you can to get her to stop pester you. Personally if I want to sleep with a girl and its not possible, not in a million years would I want to be friends with her.
 

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Personal think I am Gona try to avoid her most as I can. Because it will just keep bothering me don't want that. It's just too bad because I don't go out and meet a lot of girls so this just fell in my lap and I wasted my opertinity but being the nice guy all the time and it was my fault but Dident know anybetter at the time. Only thing I can say is I learned from it and it will never happen again. Too bad I did not find this website sooner I probably could have saved it but it was too late.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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stevo

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Don't be too hard on yourself. You did not ruin anything.

She had a boyfriend already, meaning it was a lost cause to begin with.

Some girls are super friendly regardless of boyfriend or not. You just have to decide what you want and draw the line there.

The first step to progression is understanding the part you played.

The point is not to be a jerk, you can be nice (respectful) just don't be a toilet seat and be confident in going for what you want, if its pursuing your dreams or the lady's panties, you think of a plan and just do it.

At this point, move on. That's all you can do in life. Keep moving on.
 

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I had a chance when she Dident have a boyfriend I just waited too long and lost my opertunity my fault and it sucks. Learned the next time just go for it right away. Don't f around.
 

RangerMIke

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Spp27 said:
I had a chance when she Dident have a boyfriend I just waited too long and lost my opertunity my fault and it sucks. Learned the next time just go for it right away. Don't f around.
Don't worry about it. Most men don't know what the fvck they are doing with women, this new dude will likely screw up as well. If you want her be paitent you likely have another shot... if no... of well, keep looking for someone else.

Be a true DJ you will be able to attract better women and when you do you will be less likely to fixate on one because you will soon realize you get another, better woman.
 

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Hope you are right about another shot. Going to start looking too home something works out
 
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