"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ashrivas

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Hey guys

Basically I am interested in this girl that I have known for about a month. Shes given me all kinds of signals and I want to ask her out. So what would be the most effective way? I have her MSN/IM so I can email, ask for her number and set up a date or I can just ask her when I see her again on Thursday. I was planning it for Saturday or Sunday. I see her on thursday and friday at work. What would you guys do?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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ashrivas said:
Hey guys

Basically I am interested in this girl that I have known for about a month. Shes given me all kinds of signals and I want to ask her out. So what would be the most effective way? I have her MSN/IM so I can email, ask for her number and set up a date or I can just ask her when I see her again on Thursday. I was planning it for Saturday or Sunday. I see her on thursday and friday at work. What would you guys do?
I agree with Slaog,however my question to you would be,why did you wait a month to finally ask her out?


You greatly,GREATLY increase your chances of her saying yes if you ask her out when you first meet her.




I think you're ok,unless....unless you've spent that month laughing,joking,playing and hanging around her.



However you ask her out,do it in person.
 

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slaog said:
Does she like you?




Best thing to do is say you're going somewhere and ask her if she wants to come along. This makes things less formal and theres not as much pressure when ye meet.


If she says no then it should be no big deal to you.
she has definately shown interest in me through several things that are sending off signals for me 1) very open with me..picks me out in the room to talk etc 2) is comfortable with me touching her..shes tried to touch me as well 3) teasing and making funny faces and what not 4) just a vibe that she gives off. Very flirtatious.
ok less formal sounds about right. so just ask her through email? or get her number first thro email or jus ask her when i see her at work which is thrusday? I know im kinda beating the bush here I guess it shouldnt matter.
 

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Igetit! said:
I agree with Slaog,however my question to you would be,why did you wait a month to finally ask her out?


You greatly,GREATLY increase your chances of her saying yes if you ask her out when you first meet her.




I think you're ok,unless....unless you've spent that month laughing,joking,playing and hanging around her.



However you ask her out,do it in person.
Hey Igetit. Well during this month there was minimal contact. She is from work. It's a call center enviornment. The only time i would see her is after work. Lately shes been touchy-feely, making funny/random faces, trying to get my reaction and so on. Last time i saw her (past friday she asked me to sit next to her and I did. Didn't know if saying no would have been a good idea..after reading stuff here it seems like I should have done that. Any case I think my chances are solid.

I need to make a move...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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