Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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ashrivas

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Hey guys

Basically I am interested in this girl that I have known for about a month. Shes given me all kinds of signals and I want to ask her out. So what would be the most effective way? I have her MSN/IM so I can email, ask for her number and set up a date or I can just ask her when I see her again on Thursday. I was planning it for Saturday or Sunday. I see her on thursday and friday at work. What would you guys do?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ashrivas said:
Hey guys

Basically I am interested in this girl that I have known for about a month. Shes given me all kinds of signals and I want to ask her out. So what would be the most effective way? I have her MSN/IM so I can email, ask for her number and set up a date or I can just ask her when I see her again on Thursday. I was planning it for Saturday or Sunday. I see her on thursday and friday at work. What would you guys do?
I agree with Slaog,however my question to you would be,why did you wait a month to finally ask her out?


You greatly,GREATLY increase your chances of her saying yes if you ask her out when you first meet her.




I think you're ok,unless....unless you've spent that month laughing,joking,playing and hanging around her.



However you ask her out,do it in person.
 

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slaog said:
Does she like you?




Best thing to do is say you're going somewhere and ask her if she wants to come along. This makes things less formal and theres not as much pressure when ye meet.


If she says no then it should be no big deal to you.
she has definately shown interest in me through several things that are sending off signals for me 1) very open with me..picks me out in the room to talk etc 2) is comfortable with me touching her..shes tried to touch me as well 3) teasing and making funny faces and what not 4) just a vibe that she gives off. Very flirtatious.
ok less formal sounds about right. so just ask her through email? or get her number first thro email or jus ask her when i see her at work which is thrusday? I know im kinda beating the bush here I guess it shouldnt matter.
 

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Igetit! said:
I agree with Slaog,however my question to you would be,why did you wait a month to finally ask her out?


You greatly,GREATLY increase your chances of her saying yes if you ask her out when you first meet her.




I think you're ok,unless....unless you've spent that month laughing,joking,playing and hanging around her.



However you ask her out,do it in person.
Hey Igetit. Well during this month there was minimal contact. She is from work. It's a call center enviornment. The only time i would see her is after work. Lately shes been touchy-feely, making funny/random faces, trying to get my reaction and so on. Last time i saw her (past friday she asked me to sit next to her and I did. Didn't know if saying no would have been a good idea..after reading stuff here it seems like I should have done that. Any case I think my chances are solid.

I need to make a move...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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