I went on a date with a young girl last thursday,we made out and she appeared to have high interest cos I said to her 'u look happy' after we left the bar and she said 'thanks to u' so I leave it till today to call her and she doesn't pick up. I don't think she'll call me back but she is on my floor where I have class so its really easy for me to bump into her during breaks everyday. So inevitably if I want to see her tomorrow I can see her cos she's down the corridor. If I pass by her should I just say hi and ignore her? Cos she really should have called me back by now or at least acknowledged my call in some way. Maybe she lost intereest so the orse thing I could do is go up to her and talk?
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what should i do?
- Thread starter pete101
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Unless she completely lost interest in you and you did something terribly wrong and she doesnt want to see you ever again, this is a stupid game.
If you see her then talk as normal, if it comes up say, 'yea i foned, is your fone broke or something? usually people fone back'. Call her a doofus or weener for good measure.
Dont be put into the position of chasing her while she gets power and acts aloof. Thats what she wants.
If you see her then talk as normal, if it comes up say, 'yea i foned, is your fone broke or something? usually people fone back'. Call her a doofus or weener for good measure.
Dont be put into the position of chasing her while she gets power and acts aloof. Thats what she wants.
But by me talking to her normally that would make her think its cool for her to do that and if I comment on her not answering her phone or calling back she'll think I'm being too clingy, I thought showing her by my actions of ignoring her is better?
ok so i did it, as i passed down the hall she was at the end of the floor and i was making a phone call so she waved at me and i kinda smiled and waved back, i may have looked angry though, then as i went down the stairs her close friend said hi to me, i may have looked angry at the time tho as this was straight after i waved.
im not really sure what im trying to achieve by doing this but given that when i took her on the immediate date (literally 2 hours before, during break i told her to meet me 15mins after class finished at a precise location, when i called at time she told me she was in the restaurant next to our classroom building with her friends, i was annoyed at the time and told her to meet me 45mins later. she agreed. but guess what? she wasnt there, and was late. i got annoyed with her a bit telling her she should have told me if she was going to the restaurant with her friends after class. such spoilt behaviour)
shes soviet/eastern european and 18 and the fact she didnt call me back yesterday or acknowledge my call tells me shes carrying on the spoilt behaviour. im trying to demonstrate this is not cool hence my stance but do u think i am going about this all the wrong way?
these soviet/eastern european girls are so spoilt that i almost predicted how they'll behave, shes rich too but after that whole her being late and not where i told her to be before the 1st date i thought thats enough, no more.
i dont know what the plan is, but i reckon if i stand around with my friend on our floor tomorrow, she'll either a)come up to talk to me, or b)walk past me eyes down in a blanking me sort of way that she doesn't care about me anymore.
did what i do was right today?
what do u think her reaction would have been as to why i only waved at her and didnt talk to her?
i keep having afc relapse thoughts of maybe i should go up to talk to her but i need to be strong this time. it doesnt help i dont have any other options but this me being strong and hard on myself will help me in the long term.
im not really sure what im trying to achieve by doing this but given that when i took her on the immediate date (literally 2 hours before, during break i told her to meet me 15mins after class finished at a precise location, when i called at time she told me she was in the restaurant next to our classroom building with her friends, i was annoyed at the time and told her to meet me 45mins later. she agreed. but guess what? she wasnt there, and was late. i got annoyed with her a bit telling her she should have told me if she was going to the restaurant with her friends after class. such spoilt behaviour)
shes soviet/eastern european and 18 and the fact she didnt call me back yesterday or acknowledge my call tells me shes carrying on the spoilt behaviour. im trying to demonstrate this is not cool hence my stance but do u think i am going about this all the wrong way?
these soviet/eastern european girls are so spoilt that i almost predicted how they'll behave, shes rich too but after that whole her being late and not where i told her to be before the 1st date i thought thats enough, no more.
i dont know what the plan is, but i reckon if i stand around with my friend on our floor tomorrow, she'll either a)come up to talk to me, or b)walk past me eyes down in a blanking me sort of way that she doesn't care about me anymore.
did what i do was right today?
what do u think her reaction would have been as to why i only waved at her and didnt talk to her?
i keep having afc relapse thoughts of maybe i should go up to talk to her but i need to be strong this time. it doesnt help i dont have any other options but this me being strong and hard on myself will help me in the long term.
Byezbozhniy
Don Juan
I smell a oneitis. You have no right to get so emotionally obsessed with this girl after only one date.
I'm sure this isn't what you want to hear, but you're obsessing over this girl far too much. You've only been on one date. Being so emotionally invested so early will guarantee failure.
You're acting like a needy girl. You should have waited 10-15 minutes past your agreed meeting time, then if she didn't show, you should have taken off. If she turned up late and called you, you could've just said, "Sorry, I was waiting for you but you didn't show. I bumped into one of my girl friends and she insisted taking me for a coffee."i got annoyed with her a bit telling her she should have told me if she was going to the restaurant with her friends after class. such spoilt behaviour)
By 'Soviet', do you mean Russian? Sure, some Russian girls are spoiled, but on the whole they're far more humble than Western chicks. Maybe she's not returning your call because she's just not into you? It was one date dude. She hasn't signed a contract.shes soviet/eastern european and 18 and the fact she didnt call me back yesterday or acknowledge my call tells me shes carrying on the spoilt behaviour.
You sound like a stalker.i dont know what the plan is, but i reckon if i stand around with my friend on our floor tomorrow, she'll either a)come up to talk to me, or b)walk past me eyes down in a blanking me sort of way that she doesn't care about me anymore.
Probably zero reaction ... except for maybe 'thank fvck he didn't try to speak with me.' I jest, but even so, I'm sure you're thinking about this a hell of a lot more than she is.what do u think her reaction would have been as to why i only waved at her and didnt talk to her?
I'm sure this isn't what you want to hear, but you're obsessing over this girl far too much. You've only been on one date. Being so emotionally invested so early will guarantee failure.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.