"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What should I do with her?

Nikar

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now, i got the e-mail from this girl(a HB9) a month ago. We've been exchanging mails ever since.
I was about to ask her out until recently that I noticed something : everytime she replied to my mail, the subject title would be prefixed with a "FW" instead of "RE".
One example is....

FW : How are you?

In e-mail clients(she uses Hotmail), the FW prefix appears in the subject title only when the user clicks the "Forward" button.....WHICH MEANS SHE FORWARDED ALL MY E-MAILS TO HER FRIENDS??!!!
(the Bcc field doesn't appear, so it seems that she places her friends' e-mail in the Bcc field as well!)

I think the case is pretty clear cut. She doesn't take me seriously by doing all these mail forwarding crap. Betraying my privacy and trust in her, playing me like some clown.

I really wanna give her a slap and next her, but I don't wanna give up on her totally.
I mean, I can just LJBF her cos' she's pretty challenging and tough. :D

So, guys....I'll be meeting her next week. What should I do regarding this e-mail forwarding thing?
Confront her and see what she has to say?

Thanks for all your help!
nikar.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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aftershock

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You might have it all wrong.

I think, though I'm not 100% sure of this, that FWD and RE have the same effect, and FWD doesn't send it to all her friends.

Any geeks out there who know?
 

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does it matter?

So, guys....I\'ll be meeting her next week. What should I do regarding this e-mail forwarding thing?
Confront her and see what she has to say?
Why do you care about the way of a e-mail topic was written??

I think it is more productive if you keep seeing this woman face to face in the reality realm than just worrying about something through the internet. You should really be worried about what she thinks about you after hou have had something phyisical & deeper with her.

Meanwhile, IIsuggest you read the DJ Bible and keep your man to woman interactions off the internet. It is worthless, seriously.

greetings
 

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wow, man. if u called her on that, and it turned out not to be the case.... heh. let's just say that'd suck.

I would just be your hot, DJ self when you meet her and start from square one there. You'll be able to tell by the end if she's for real or if you're just the current "joke" within her circle of girlfriends.

haaaaaaaveee fun.

-JP
 

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WTF are you doing man its been 1 month you should have f**ked her already or at the very least got her phone number. Get her phone number and call her forget about emailing..............
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Nikar

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Why do you care about the way of a e-mail topic was written??
nah, i used to ignore it at first, but then, there's always a "FW" in front and i started to suspect some things isn't right.

actually, i'm not so overworked or hot about it....i just am curious why she's doing this and i'm gonna ask her in a nice way about it.

WTF are you doing man its been 1 month you should have f**ked her already or at the very least got her phone number. Get her phone number and call her forget about emailing..............
nah Black_Italian.....i know it's almost one month already, and i'm fastening my pace these few days.
i mean, the first few times, i waited for several days before replying, and she waited too.....thus the long delay in between mails, and though it's almost one month, we barely sent too much mails.

i'm gonna ask for the phone no. soon and take it from there, but i don't really wanna fcuk her, though! i'm in this more for a serious r/s, and if i wanna fcuk, i could have done it with other girls. :)

thanks guys!
nikar.
 

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Have you ever heard of a phrase

"ignorance is bliss"

Take it to heart because who cares if shes doing this or that... she's not your GF and therefore not obligated to treat you with dignity...

You main aim is to seduce her... once she's seduce, these little childish games she once played will just be one of those funny moments in both of your lives... (potentially)
 
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