What should I do with a girl that just stops responding to my messages?

[Kal0051]

I ask this girl if she wanted to do something after we had been texting back and forth for a while. She told me when she had her days off, I had one of them off and said we should do something that day. She agreed.

A few days later I tried calling her to finalize plans, she doesn't answer. Send a text with what I was gonna say (asked her if she wanted to go to x place). No response. Wait a day, text her a random "hey" text, she writes back. I ask her again about the day we were gonna hang out, no response.

I'm hesitant about calling/texting her again, but should I send a text like "forget about hanging out on x day, I made other plans"? Not really a lie since I am trying to make other plans with friends (don't want to waste a day because this girl is a *****).

I do realize that there's a good possibility she's not interested, though I don't understand why she originally agreed to it without hesitation.

Any thoughts guy?

 

[Soprano]

dont even msg her again, its her prob

 

[Kal0051]

dont even msg her again, its her prob

yeah, that's a good option. I've also considered deleting her number from my phone since this is probably going nowhere, but I really hate doing **** like that.

 

[Soprano]

sometimes its easier to get pissed off than it is to move on but fkkk it just take the high road and move on, you will both look to others and feel better in the long run because of it

 

[Kal0051]

lol, I think I'd prefer a girl shut me down hard then pull this ****. Just boggles my mind how girls can act interested then drop off the face of the planet.

 

[#41]

How many signs of low-IL do you need? No girl with any sort of IL would ever blow off messages or blow off attempts to make plans for a date.

Take the hint -- stop messaging this girl and move on. If she, for some strange reason, contacts you STOP TEXTING AND CALL HER. If you can't get her on the phone, move on. If you get her on the phone and she's evasive about making definite plans, move on. If you get her on the phone and can set a firm date for plans, give it 1 shot.

 

[Kal0051]

How many signs of low-IL do you need? No girl with any sort of IL would ever blow off messages or blow off attempts to make plans for a date.

Take the hint -- stop messaging this girl and move on. If she, for some strange reason, contacts you STOP TEXTING AND CALL HER. If you can't get her on the phone, move on. If you get her on the phone and she's evasive about making definite plans, move on. If you get her on the phone and can set a firm date for plans, give it 1 shot.

I was actually getting signs of high IL from this girl before (well, at least mid-high). Her no response **** didn't start until I went to finalize plans.

 

[#41]

I was actually getting signs of high IL from this girl before (well, at least mid-high). Her no response **** didn't start until I went to finalize plans.

What does that suggest to you? I tend to think that a truly high-IL girl will be eager to finalize plans.

Have you actually spoken to this girl on the phone? Texting is a great tool, but it's a poor substitute for an actual phone conversation or a face-to-face contact.

 

[Kal0051]

What does that suggest to you? I tend to think that a truly high-IL girl will be eager to finalize plans.

Have you actually spoken to this girl on the phone? Texting is a great tool, but it's a poor substitute for an actual phone conversation or a face-to-face contact.

that's the confusing part. But it really doesn't matter, when it came down to it she blew it when it counted (blowing off plans to meet up). Doesn't matter why.

And yeah, I've spoken to her on the phone, texting was just useful because I never know when she's working (so I text first, if she responds quick I call, if she doesn't I just carry on text convo when I get time).

 

[youbaby11]

delete her number so you're not tempted to initiate text/calling again

 

[jophil28]

How many signs of low-IL do you need? No girl with any sort of IL would ever blow off messages or blow off attempts to make plans for a date.

Take the hint -- stop messaging this girl and move on. If she, for some strange reason, contacts you STOP TEXTING AND CALL HER. If you can't get her on the phone, move on. If you get her on the phone and she's evasive about making definite plans, move on. If you get her on the phone and can set a firm date for plans, give it 1 shot.

This.^^

A woman who is interested in you will make herself ACCESSIBLE and AVAILABLE.
A woman who is not interested will avoid you, hide out, ignore your comms or flake.
IF she had high interest level like you said, then her current behavior contradicts your initial impression.
MY guess is that you were just her entertainment for a short while, and now she has lost interest or is seeing someone else.

The greatest truth is in their behavior.

 

[RoxLootXK]

Shes on an auction spree...taking the best offer. This is very typical of girls who you just started seeing...also depends on the day you planned to hang out (friday and saturday are premier days) so if its on one of those two days, she is evaluating if there is anything better to do/person to hang out with/do things etc....usually not a good sign. Do not settle for a sunday afternoon hang out which is literally left overs, you are better than that!

 

[DonGorgon]

move on and forget you ever met her.. She has moved on and forgotten you..lol

 

[Energizer]

lol, I think I'd prefer a girl shut me down hard then pull this ****. Just boggles my mind how girls can act interested then drop off the face of the planet.

She is clearly spineless.

This is her way of telling you to take the hint that she is not interested in you.

Delete her number and move on. You'll find someone else in a few weeks anyway.

 

[She_feelin_Me]

Girls have "other guys" thats prob occupying their time....so if she flake out just drop her plain and simple. You think you are the only man thats trying to hit that? NO!

 

[Kal0051]

She is clearly spineless.

This is her way of telling you to take the hint that she is not interested in you.

Delete her number and move on. You'll find someone else in a few weeks anyway.

I think this is beyond spineless. Spineless is the girls that hesitate when you ask them out, hoping your get the hint and they won;t have to say no. She readily agreed to hang out and while she'll still talk to me about other things, she'll ignore any further actions on my part to finalize the plans.

Maybe she has other **** going on that I don't know about, but how long does it take to send off a message explaining that? Fvck her is all I have to say, I'll still be friendly and **** but that's it.

 

[Kal0051]

Girls have "other guys" thats prob occupying their time....so if she flake out just drop her plain and simple. You think you are the only man thats trying to hit that? NO!

lol, I assume other guys are hitting that. But then again she choose the day when she was free without me having to ask. I thought that was a good sign (or at least meant that she was actually free and up for meeting up). Guess I misread her.

 

[She_feelin_Me]

Girls are tricky, sometimes they flake out. If she sets up a day for yall to meet and then backs out that should tell you about herself. I had girls do that from time to time and I just cut them off. I dont chase no female

 

[Kal0051]

Girls are tricky, sometimes they flake out. If she sets up a day for yall to meet and then backs out that should tell you about herself. I had girls do that from time to time and I just cut them off. I dont chase no female

For me, more often than not they;ll flake. It doesn;t make a lot of sense, I;m a good guy, good looking, physically fit. And when a girl doesn't flake she'll stick around, but it's a pain in the ass getting the first meet.

 

[Snowman23]

Just from reading your posts you come off as extremely needy. I find it hard to believe this didn't seep through in your interactions with this girl.