What should I do when my gf gets all...

[Triple T]

..EMO!
She gets sad and stuff sometimes because of her parents fighting and what not. Then she goes all EMO and like thinks she fails at everything in life.

What should I do if anything at all?
I've cheered her up when she talked to me, but she gets EMO again out of no where!

I don't stick around long because its contagious and I become depressed as well. How should I handle this?

 

[FiNs2BeCaUgHt]

???

Dude, She is going through hard times... you should help her as much as possible.. It will help her and actually YOU in the long run.. trust me..
She isnt JUSt your ''GF'' She is a human being

 

[qshen]

I think you have to adhere to

 

[KontrollerX]

Its her problem to deal with.

She shouldn't be dumping it all on you.

Its ok for you to cheer her up from time to time but yeah don't make it a habit dude.

Sadness does rub off on you if you are not careful.

 

[Axcell]

You aren't her therapist, the last thing you want to be known as is her emotional tampon. That's what her best girl friends are for!

Anyway - sometimes it's just best to sit and listen. When girls tell you stuff, most of the time they are just yearning somebody to talk too. So just sit quietly and attentively listen. You can cheer her up occasionally. You need to remember you're a DJ, you don't have time to listen to all her problems, you have problems too! But at the same time, you need to be respectful to what she's going through. It's all about BALANCING in a relationship, as long as you maintain a balance between being her emotional tampon and being a DJ, you should be able to handle the situation effectively.

 

[Smack]

If she's all sad my advice is to instead of being her emotional tampon and attempting to do the girly stuff and 'feel' each other, show her a good time. This can be anything that she enjoys, but it has to be physical and not just sitting talking about feelings.

 

[Triple T]

Yea she messaged me on msn.
So I started talking to her and I guess I cheered her up.

We were suppose to hangout this friday and I totally forgot that I was going camping with some people.
So I had to cancel it and she got all sad and mad at me. :cuss:
So i just ignored her for the rest of the yesterday night.

Today she calls and says I made her cry and was like "your sooo mean! and self centered!"
And i was alll like "Okay, if your going to freak at me then I'm hanging up now."
So I hung up.

So right now tonight, she texts me "I miss you. "
Her facebook status is "I'm so mad and insecure, I want to be with you"

ehhh i guess she misses me
its going to drive her crazy over the weekend

But it seems like shes sad...

 

[Rhoto]

..EMO!
She gets sad and stuff sometimes because of her parents fighting and what not. Then she goes all EMO and like thinks she fails at everything in life.

What should I do if anything at all?
I've cheered her up when she talked to me, but she gets EMO again out of no where!

I don't stick around long because its contagious and I become depressed as well. How should I handle this?

Break up with her, she has a depressing nature about her. You don't want to be bogged down with a negative, whiny b1tch.

 

[Bloke]

She sounds like a wanker.

 

[SinJester]

Girls are people too guys.

Do you want to know what to do when she's sad?

What you really should be doing?

Cheer her up!

Don't try and do it logically or with the usual crap and cliches people do. She may want you to listen sometime but don't do it all the time. When she is sad tickle her, spin her around, pick her up, kiss her, e wants to feel happy around you, your probably one of the best things in her life right now. Just make her feel loved. Do it through your actions!

 

[Rhoto]

Sin,

The chick is 16 and so is T. Neither of them are mature enough for a committed relationship of any kind.

My question then is to you Triple T - Why are you giving up your freedom so early? Be like 2pac, get around.

 

[Triple T]

Sin,

The chick is 16 and so is T. Neither of them are mature enough for a committed relationship of any kind.

My question then is to you Triple T - Why are you giving up your freedom so early? Be like 2pac, get around.

I haven't given up anything man.

My life goes on as usual, but I have a bonus to it now. A lovely young lady to get intimate with.
I'm not controlled by her. I hangout with her when I want to, I kiss her when I want to.
I do what I want, I'm not chained down because I have a girlfriend.

Shes only part of my life, not all of it.

But I agree that if she was depressed ALL the time, then I would break up with her.
But this is like a 2-3 times a month thing. Still bugs me tho.

And Sin, Yea I've been doing all that.
She even wrote on her Nex "T, I swear your the only thing thats right in my life"
That made my day

 

[SinJester]

Sin,

The chick is 16 and so is T. Neither of them are mature enough for a committed relationship of any kind.

My question then is to you Triple T - Why are you giving up your freedom so early? Be like 2pac, get around.

I understand what your saying. I really see where you are coming from. But by the sounds of it he really enjoys her and it's not doing anything other than adding to his life. Lots of people I know have comitted relationships around that age and are happy with it. It's not for everyone so I'm not usually going to tell people what to do. Unless they like a girl who already has a boyfriend or something along those lines. One of my mates had a LTR then broke up because he wanted to get around, then he realized that wasn't what he really wants so he got back with his girl, now they might be splitting up again because he doesn't want to be with one girl for his whole life. Just got to do what you want. At least these guys are getting relationship experiance.