"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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what should i do? what should i tell her?

AnthemOfAngels

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I was IM with a friend once. shes really sweet and i like her a lot. i hear she likes me too. but, my aim screenname is hte problem. I used to be in a tagging krew once, and believe me, i deeply regret it. After about 2 months of tagging, i was caught. I tried to run, but i was scared. I've never been more scared in my life. I gave up. they padded me down, they didnt cuff me, but they asked questions. luckily they were pretty nice. After that they had me show them where i tagged. to make a long story short, i scared several elderly women when they found graffiti on a wall next to their house, and im mostlikely on probation. my aim screenname is the name of the krew, and my nicknam. when she saw it, she wanted to know what it stood for. there are multiple meanings for it. i told her one that isnt even really a definition of it. and now, it hits me hard, that i lied to her. not to mention the stupid things i've done. I've changed now, and i quit the krew. I stil live with the lifetime of regret, but how can she ever love someone like me? How can someone as crappy as me even love someone as caring and innocent as her? I need to break her the truth. i dont know what to do. she may never look at me the same way again. I want her to love me, and i want to love her. i want her to forgive me. what should i do?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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sodbuster

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So, you didn't sell drugs,beat anyone or kill anyone,do drugs etc? And now you have this innocent little angel? BS on all of that! You aren't a hardened criminal,she isn't an angel. Get her off her pedastal. Or else you don't have a chance. For all you know,she did the football team under the bleachers after a game.
 

Joe Stud

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i played tag too... as a child. i was "it" sometimes. does that mean i should expect the cops to arrest me?
 

Kailex

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You have access to an incredible conversation and icebreaker and you want to LIE about it???

Are you kidding me?

This is an excellent opportunity to tell her this:

"Well, when we go out this Friday for a drink, I'll tell you all about it."

And then USE that as a conversation builder. You have the advantage of an intriguing story and some leverage for a possible scenario in which you two could be going out.

USE IT.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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