"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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What should i do the next time it comes up

Comeback kid

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I read some article online saying that approach anxiety comes from the body teaching itself to be afraid of rejection. Mentally i can deal with it but my body can't. Sometimes when i talk to girls i'll be fine, but it's those other times. To explain it i get a warm (bad) feeling in my stomach and my heart beat speeds up and sometimes i feel bloated. So about 2 times i told myself i would approach anyways, and that these feelings couldn't help me. But when i talked to the girl my voice came out all weird and unconfident, due to so much going on in my body. This happened 2 times. I visited some site www.innergametapping.com, where they tap certain points of the body to train your nervous system to stop being defensive around girls. I tried it a few times but im not sure if it worked, has anyone else had experience with this site?

What should i do when this approach anxiety comes up again, i mean i get it really bad sometimes, (the bloated stomach, the heart beating feeling). I think it really limits me.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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tick37

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Instead of telling yourself that the girl might not like you, tell yourself there's nothing about yourself that she shouldn't like. Positive self talk! Say, "Hmmm, I like this girl, and I wonder what she has to offer," over and over. Try not to think of anything else until you say something to her.
 

frisco

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when i get anxiety i tell myself that im the biggest ****ing loser in the entire universe, my penis is so small that i need a magnifing glass to jerk off ect... piss off your ego and you become egoless but feel like you must prove yourself too yourself and the ego is like a little devil inside that will haunt you
 
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