"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What Should I Do Next?

Locogooner

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So I was at this party and met up with some hot chicks I hadn't seen in about 2 years.

They shouted my name and called me over, I hugged them and chatted to them for a while. One of them asked to hug me again because I'd become so 'muscely' and they asked me to tense them. Then they asked me to invite them out for my birthday. I asked them If they really would and they said yes. Then they asked me to come to this club down the street. but I had to stay with my mates so I didn't go. I should have got their numbers though.

I've got them both on FB, should i message them or is it too needy?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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JoelyBoy

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christ man message those sexy *****es:) 'hey was good seeing you the other night, we should catch up with a few drinks next week'
if they don't respond then you've lost nothing!
 

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You need to strike when the iron is hot. It's bad enough you already knew them for 2 years and nothing happened. Why did you stay with your guy friends? To play video games?

If you want to establish something you need to be up front and (implicitly) say "I am interested in you and I am willing to be rejected to take a chance that you are interested also." So yes you should ask one of them (pick one) for her number.

But you're trying to play it safe to avoid rejection. Now you'll be sending them a nice FB message and their phone will chime while they are still in bed with some guys they took home after you let them go.
 

Locogooner

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bigneil said:
You need to strike when the iron is hot. It's bad enough you already knew them for 2 years and nothing happened. Why did you stay with your guy friends? To play video games?

If you want to establish something you need to be up front and (implicitly) say "I am interested in you and I am willing to be rejected to take a chance that you are interested also." So yes you should ask one of them (pick one) for her number.

But you're trying to play it safe to avoid rejection. Now you'll be sending them a nice FB message and their phone will chime while they are still in bed with some guys they took home after you let them go.
I haven't seen them for 2 years but I saw them everyday for 5 years before that. The party I was at was in a club/bar and the girls wanted to go to another club down the road. I didnt have money to get into the club anyway.

Should I ask over FB? Thing is I have exchanged naughty messages with both girls in the past via FB but nothing materialized :(.
 

Locogooner

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And I must mention that one of exchanges over FB was especially awkward between one of the girls but this was 6 months ago and I think she must have forgot when I met her.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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