what should i do next?

[big weezy]

Girl I had instant date with last monday who didn't answer my call or respond to my initial text

Last fri:

Me: If you dress nice for me i'll take us to that secret posh bar in town i told you about. Im busy tomorrow but free tonight or Sun, how's then?

Her: Hi big weezy its me HB.Tks a lot,but I am in spain this weekend,sorry! What about next week?..
What does it mean "dress for me"? It's ok,of course but what would u like exactly? Big Hug

Me: hey, spain is beautiful, enjoy your weekend. A dress & sexy heels like you said the other day is fine. ? whatever flatters your sexy figure. We could do Mon or Tues then. When are you back?

No response


Today:


Me: hey, guess u are back now. let's get together for that drink then, im busy tomorrow & Sat but can do tonight or Fri, how's then? Hope u have the perfect outfit for me ? x

Her: Yep! I am here...but I can't see u on friday. I promise next week, is it ok? ... I don't have my outfit ready yet, some suggestions?

Should I just not reply and make her sweat it out?

Remember this is 2nd time now she's said 'how about next week?' I expect a specific day answer, not some BS fluff.

If I don't reply for a few days it'll let her think a bit I guess. Then should I say 'when next week?'

Make her commit a day now seeing as I offered twice.

 

[UnsworthK]

There is a good post about "being upfront and getting results" on here somewhere. I suggest you try a similar tactic.

Basically, you tell the girl upfront that because she has flaked on you twice now, that you will not be the one to initiate a date arrangement anymore because it saves you from wasting your time and keeps your mental state at peace. If she was really ever into you, she will then make an effort to initiate herself.

If she doesn't, a swift move-on will compensate for her lack of effort and the two of you can go about your lives without time wasters. Especially yourself.

 

[crazyboy]

One its sound like your begging for her attention. Two you shouldn't call her and let her hit you up "next week". Third you should have pick a day and just went with it. If she said i can't see you friday then should suggest alternative date instead putting everything in her hands. Fourth if she doesn't get back to you chalk up to lack interest and move on. Fifth She is basically giving you im busy respond without saying and now she make you chase her for a date umm your fighting an uphill battle. Your next move like i said above is to not contact her and go hang out with friends and get another date with another woman. You actually had interest at dress for me you should said something like dress sexy. She doesn't have a dress is big load of crap ever all women have a dress smh.

 

[Htienvu]

You've offered twice now and she turned you down twice without any concrete counter offer, can try a third time if she's really worth it. If not just tell her you're busy next week and leave it at that. Show her that you're losing interest, leave it up to her now.