"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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what should i do next? and be smooth with it?

chancer

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Hey, what's up all. I just want to know what you guys think...

This girl came up to me at school, when i was really busy with stuff. So i pretty much told her that i'd see her at the party. Yeah, i saw her at the party, but I was also busy working at the door. Then she goes to the next party we have. I went up to her, met her friends, and then we met up on he dance floor. She was into it, and so was it. Eventually her and her friends leave the dance floor (it was ****ing hot), and I guess they took off. So... I was planning on telling her that she dances very well and that we should kick it sometime and get the number. What do you guys think?

So far, she's been chasing me. i obviously have to go after her. But I just don't want to chase her... but at this point i may have to? Has anyone given their number out and had it work for them?
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Apparently her interest level is fairly high, sense she came up to you. Also I like the way you were busy when she came up. Most guys I know (including me in the past) would have dropped what I was doing immediately to give her my full attention.

I think you should definetly go for the number. But thats just my opinion....
 

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Has anyone given their number out and had it work for them?


>>> Sounds like she's interested, but from everything I've been reading they say don't give your number out unless it's an exchange of #'s. Just giving your # out w/out getting hers is a bad move. I ran that by a couple female friends of mine this past weekend , when I was discussing this kind of sh*t with them, and they both agreed they would not call a guy, even if they liked him, if he just gave them his number and did not ask for theirs. They said this is because A) it seems like he's arrogant for just handing his number out , in effect saying call if you feel like it, if not I don't really care, and B) it makes them feel like they have to do the "man" job of pursuing you. So I wouldn't just give her yours, but from the sound of it you can get hers pretty easily. So definitely go that route. ~Dino
 

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haha i gave mine out today, the situation kinda made me make the choice of giving it out or not seeing her again. (i tried closing ) So ill get back to you....when she replies lol.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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spider_007

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Originally posted by chancer
... I was planning on telling her that she dances very well and that we should kick it sometime and get the number. What do you guys think?
tell her she needs some dance lessons, and then tell her your the man teach her.
And then take her out to a redneck bar, and teach her haw to dance hill-billy style.:crackup: :crackup:


don't just give her a compliment and ask her out, PLAY WITH IT, FLIRT....
 
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