What should I do here?

[Moneytalks]

I messaged a girl on PoF a while ago and been talking to her via IM for about 2 months. I asked her if she wanted to meet up about 6 weeks ago and she said "I'm sort of seeing someone.". Thought, fair one, I won't ask again. Before that she said "why are you on PoF, you shouldn't have trouble finding a girl"

Been talking to her most days since, just general conversation, and a few days ago I greeted her with a joke. I can't remember it.

Her: "wow, you know how to be charming haha"
Me: "why would I need to be?"
Her: 'because I'm a lady and you're supposed to charm us'
Me: "Nah. You declined my offer to meet up so there's no point"
Her: "if you say something charming then I'll change my mind"

I said somethin here and she just said "haha, close enough."

She's been texting me non-stop for 3 days, just general chit chat, and this morning sent me a text saying: "if I had a boyfriend would you change your mind about meeting me?xx"

I replied, 'it's likely. Would he mind for a start? And would you want to lie to him if he did? xx'

Her: "He wouldn't mind if I told him straight"xx

Me: "have I just failed some sort of test or are you seeing someone? xx"

Her: "I'm just sort of seeing someone but I don't know where it's going :/ xx"

I didn't really know what to say to that so I just said "alright, fair one".

I thought I'd made it obvious that I'm interested in her, and I thought she was interested in me. I wouldn't mind if she'd told me from the start, but she didn't.

Should I just sack this girl off?

Moneytalks

 

[Lord Sidious]

Well, here´s what I think:

I messaged a girl on PoF a while ago and been talking to her via IM for about 2 months.

Too long! Are you talking to a person you didn´t even met personally by IM for that long????

I asked her if she wanted to meet up about 6 weeks ago and she said "I'm sort of seeing someone.".

Asked??? How did you ask? Ask is always a bad word that means a bad thing to do.

"why are you on PoF, you shouldn't have trouble finding a girl"

Blah blah blah blah!

Been talking to her most days since, just general conversation, and a few days ago I greeted her with a joke. I can't remember it.

Her: "wow, you know how to be charming haha"
Me: "why would I need to be?"
Her: 'because I'm a lady and you're supposed to charm us'
Me: "Nah. You declined my offer to meet up so there's no point"
Her: "if you say something charming then I'll change my mind"

I said somethin here and she just said "haha, close enough."

Tipicall AW BS....

"if I had a boyfriend would you change your mind about meeting me?xx"

I replied, 'it's likely. Would he mind for a start? And would you want to lie to him if he did? xx'

Her: "He wouldn't mind if I told him straight"xx

More tipicall AW BS...

Me: "have I just failed some sort of test or are you seeing someone? xx"

WOW, did you asked her if you FAILED a TEST of her???? So much power given...! And then you ask something you knew already????

(...) I thought I'd made it obvious that I'm interested in her, and I thought she was interested in me.

Sorry, bro, that´s the problem...

Should I just sack this girl off?

Dude, you have two choices: either you make a move (and I think it may be to late for that...) or you simply stop acting like that and move on.


Take care.

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

Sounds like she wants to bang. Might be a fun time too, if you know how to keep your head straight.

Obviously not relationship material.

 

[Maximus Rex]

I messaged a girl on PoF a while ago and been talking to her via IM for about 2 months. I asked her if she wanted to meet up about 6 weeks ago and she said "I'm sort of seeing someone.". Thought, fair one, I won't ask again. Before that she said "why are you on PoF, you shouldn't have trouble finding a girl"

Been talking to her most days since, just general conversation, and a few days ago I greeted her with a joke. I can't remember it.

Her: "wow, you know how to be charming haha"
Me: "why would I need to be?"
Her: 'because I'm a lady and you're supposed to charm us'
Me: "Nah. You declined my offer to meet up so there's no point"
Her: "if you say something charming then I'll change my mind"

I said somethin here and she just said "haha, close enough."

She's been texting me non-stop for 3 days, just general chit chat, and this morning sent me a text saying: "if I had a boyfriend would you change your mind about meeting me?xx"

I replied, 'it's likely. Would he mind for a start? And would you want to lie to him if he did? xx'

Her: "He wouldn't mind if I told him straight"xx

Me: "have I just failed some sort of test or are you seeing someone? xx"

Her: "I'm just sort of seeing someone but I don't know where it's going :/ xx"

I didn't really know what to say to that so I just said "alright, fair one".

I thought I'd made it obvious that I'm interested in her, and I thought she was interested in me. I wouldn't mind if she'd told me from the start, but she didn't.

Should I just sack this girl off?

Women need attention like junkies need heroin. This seems like some attention wh*ring bull****. Here's what you do. Go to a bar. CALL HER and DON'T NOT TEXT HER! Tell her to meet you at the bar for drinks. If she says anything other than yes, DTB. Here's a sorry from the Rex files http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=73178

Where to begin? There's not enough adjectives in the English to describe how great this site is and the invaluable sevice it provides for not only for men, but for women too. Women can learn alot from this site too. Not how to counteract act djing techniques, but how to become better people and more desirable to men. To the creators of this site and the one's who post their experiences and their pricless advice, a thousand "Thank you's" I wish I could treat you all to McCallen's 25 yr old and a Cuban.

My first post on SoSuave, is a personal experince I had with a chick last year. It's mainly for the young cats and provides two lessons. First one is, sticking to your guts. If there are certain kinds of women you refuse to approach regardless of how "bad," she is. Listen to your intution, it will save yourself alot of time and self-loathing.

2) It shows (as already discussed in the forums) what I call "passive rejection," in action.

Enjoy, and most of all learn from my mistake. Feel free to chastise me, I definitely deserve it.

Last year, I went against one the tenets in my personal dogma. I tried to talk to a single mother. Things should of ended when I found out that she had a kid, but the inital conversation went well and I decided to over look the fact she was a mother. Also I think the fact she said had 40d's and was capable of female ejaculation kept me interested. As a matter of fact, I know it kept me interested.

We continue to talk and I find out more things with was telling me to leave her alone. She was in abusive relationship while she was in college, her baby's father was a ****. He was an absentee dad and she would stress over this. Plus his new broad was causing confusion. In addition her mother died of an drug overdose when she was a teenager. All telltale signs of an emotionally unstable chick. Do I bounce, oh nooo, like a effin' moron I still try to kick it. I ask for the date. She says check back with her. You know that when you mess with a chick with kids, that you have to schedule dates decades in advance. This was Monday, she check back Thursday. Guess what happens on Thursday? She can't get a babysitter. Do I end the phone calls. Of course not. 40d's will have even Omipotens Maximus Rex going against his better judgement.

I arrange yet another date. I was suppose to meet her after her child support hearing. She said call, I left a message. Never heard from her. When I call, she's short with me on the phone or when I do talk her, she would say I'll call you back and never calls back. I finally arrange other date. Again babysitter problems. Finally I'm like eff this. I don't call for two weeks. My birthday was coming up. So I run the "birthday test." My birthday is very important to me. I'll start telling a chick a month from my birthday to the week before it's coming up. If she remember it, she becomes "girlfriend material." To remember it shows your thinking of me. Anyway, she fails the "birthday test." I don't call for three weeks.

I like a dumba$$, I start calling her again. We talk. Things are going fine. I asked yet again, to go out. This was Sunday, she said check on Wednesday. I call on Wednesday, I can get in contact with her. I call on Thursday. GUESS WHAT? She can't go with me because she's going out with her co-worker. Do I end the torment and aggravation. HELL NO!!! The next time I get her on the I flat out ask, "do you want me to stop calling you?" I'm hoping for a "yes," so I can free myself of this hellish purgatory. She said, "No, I want you to keep calling me."

Now I'm all ****** up. She takes my calls, and says she wants to kick it but when it comes time to kick it, she can't get a babysitter or she's going out with co-worker. I don't call for a month. One night I call about 10:30 and one other end of the phone is this tired and gorgy voice that says not "hi how are you doing?" but "why are you calling so late?" Finally I follow Teddy Pendergrass' advice and I "let it go."

The sad part about this whole fiasco is I knew better. Time and time again I kept getting the "red flags," but I ignored them and I really beat myself up about that little icident. I tell yall this delightful little story to tell you this. I would've saved myself six months of aggravation if I would've stayed true to my dogma. The same holds true for you, especially you females. You know in your gut, when your first meet a person whether not you should mess with them. Listen to your instincts you'll save yourself from future problems. After all it's better to be alone and happy, than be in a relationship and miserable.

 

[Moneytalks]

Thanks fellas. I'm boring this one off though. She's now in a proper relationship and acting the same.

I asked if she wanted to meet up by saying "what're you doing this weekend?"

'nothing really'

"wanna go for a drink?"