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what should i do? (girl is upset because i dont give her enough attention)

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ok there was this girl that some of you may remember that told me she just wanted to be friends after the halloween party, anyway since then she has told me she really likes me and gets upset when i flirt with other girls.

i decided that if thats the case then i should keep flirting with other girls and have done so, then last night at a bonfire party with fireworks i ended up getting together with another girl. the original girl hasnt spoken to me today and has told people she is really upset etc.

in fact, last night she had a go at me just for flirting with the other girl (im not sure if she knows that i kissed and fingered her etc) and told one of my friends that she couldnt talk to me because she would start crying.

so the question is what to do now? should i talk to her about it? should i talk to her at all?

she told her friend (who decided to tell me, i didnt ask) that she didnt want to keep doing stuff with me because i was "too clingy" - she definitely cant say that now! so should i leave it for a while before saying anything?

i definitely dont want to get together with the girl i fingered, unless its just some casual sex (which is definitely an option) but if i do that i will blow my chances with the original girl.

both are pretty hot but they have lots of mutual friends, theres no way i could do both at once and i dont have time either my life is busy enough as it is!

so any suggestions?
 

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Hey! Well the only advice i can offer to you on this is just to try and balance it out. It also sounds to me liek you both have a communication issue. If you have to hear what shes feeling threw a friend then there is a problem! I really think you should meet with her or maybe even call her to find out what exactly is going on.

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some people may tell you diffrent but this is what i have learnt and want to share with you. the DJbible and this fourm are amazing tools. i feel so blessed to have them but sometimes you just need to listen to the one source that will never lie to you or give you false information. your gut. your gut is your best friend so never EVER doubt it. If you feel like you should go to her house break down the door and nail her, then gosh damn you should do it. if you really are that concered with the "mystrey" stuff then this board is developing drones. so what i can say to you is follow your gut instinct of what to do and you'll be fine brother! When your with her, apply the kino and just be smooth. [your not the man, your a man-senor fingers] dont forget that.

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just called the girl, she was really pleased to hear from me, said she was upset about me just talking to the other girl last night. i said well we're just friends so you can't be stressed about me talking to other girls.

she doesnt know i kissed her etc

i kinda mentioned it, by saying every1 coupled off. including me and laura and she just said o, then went quiet.

what do you guys recommend i do next?
 

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ok rich, here you go.

first of all, realize that somewhere deep down, no matter how the duck looks on the surface of the pond, this is a SHYT TEST from the original girl. She's testing to whether you'll be "exclusive" to her even BEFORE she's given YOU anything! She wants you to STOP flirting with other girls... you're guys aren't even TOGETHER.

So, props for not being a pvssy: "oh, SURE! i won't even LOOK at another girl or else you'll get mad, princess."


Second, you need to realize that YOU'RE THE MAN. Do what you want. Who says you can't look at other girls? If this chick is WORTH it (and i hope so, for all this overanalyzing she's putting you through, btw), then she should FIGURE OUT that she NEEDS TO DO SOMETHING to get you.

Booo hoo, she wants your attention? MAKE HER WORK FOR IT. Tell her, "you want my time? show me how fun you can be" etc. let her work to get your attention.

so far, you're on the right track. you scored the other day, and now you're playing this other girl.

hope that helps.
 
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