"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What role does the cell phone have these days

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This is a simple thing I've been thinking about. People don't seem to like to talk on the phone very much anymore, men and women. I called a girl on the phone the other day and she seemed really nervous, so much so that I even called her out on it and told her she was uncomfortable talking on the phone. I started making fun of her a little bit for it and in the midst of that, trying to figure out why in the world she didn't like talking on the phone. I couldn't get anything concrete out of her (I was joking around with her after all), but the best guess I could come up with was that she is insecure (this is true) and scared to death of dead space.

I've noticed other women are the same way. Normally, my game plan after I get a girl's number is to actually CALL it. What a concept, right?? But I've been noticing that very few of them actually answer the phone. I leave a very simple voicemail: "Hey this is Rubato from wherever the hell it was we met. Call me back at (insert digits)". This pasts year, I'm not sure if anyone has actually called me back. About half have texted me back.

I hate texting. I really do. In fact, I'm about ready to call verizon and tell them to remove texting from my plan and block incoming texts. I do like it though when its necessary to communicate with people I know and a phone call would not be practical (being in class, at work, or just a short notification).

So what's a good game plan given these observations? I've noticed that I have a much higher success rate of hearing back from a girl if I text her rather than call her, but texting is sooooo lame. Has anyone else noticed this issue, and what do you do about it? Obviously the girl is fairly low value if she can't even make a phone call. Maybe that's the answer right there.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I'm 30. So I pretty much grew up in that grey area of, "Do I call or do I text?"

And for years, I hated text. I hated the idea of it. Me, a grown man, typing short little messages on a little keypad with my f**king thumb.

But now that I'm older, and busier, I actually appreciate texting. Because, damn, after work/gym/hobbies, I really don't feel like talking on the phone. To anyone. It almost pisses me off when people call "just to chat".

The CEO of my last job would always say, "Fish where the fish are." Basically, you and I might think of ourselves as Renaissance men. We don't want to text. We're too manly for text. Yada yada. But if the world is shifting towards the direction of text, then it'd be stubborn to ignore it.
 

pdx1138

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I don't like talking on the phone...I prefer to converse in person.

I do text but keep it to a minimum number of lines.
 

Alex DeLarge

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I save texting and calls just for 2 minute conversations like meeting up, or seeing what someones plans may be later.

I don't hate text and calling, but I hate when it turns in to a primary way of communication for conversations. The only reason I would text/call in conversation is with friends or romantic partners who are a long distance away or traveling.

If someone wants to talk so bad they can meet up and do it face to face.
 

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Alex DeLarge said:
I save texting and calls just for 2 minute conversations like meeting up, or seeing what someones plans may be later.

I don't hate text and calling, but I hate when it turns in to a primary way of communication for conversations. The only reason I would text/call in conversation is with friends or romantic partners who are a long distance away or traveling.

If someone wants to talk so bad they can meet up and do it face to face.
100% agree with you :up:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Zarky

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I also hate talking on the phone.

One of the reasons is that cell phones have that awful little delay which makes it difficult and not at all natural.

Get used to texting, it is the future of communication.
 

DonGorgon

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Cell phones have cause females to be waaaaaay over stimulated.. they have men calling and texting 24/7 trying to F them... managing their pu$$y is a full time job and has made life very hard for most men..
 
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