What real failure is

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Senior Don Juan

Aug 23, 2004

Fear is the only obstacle that can ever stand in your way. Remember your sucesses AND failures because they are one of your biggest weapons against fear. Whether you fail or succeed you will tell yourself afterwards that it wasn't as hard as you thought it was going to be. I used to forget about the past and my fear would continue to bother me in every situation I encountered. A couple of months ago, I realized that in my journey to become a DJ, I have never gotten a result that I couldn't handle. Now, right before every situation I remember all those before it, and I realize this:

Fear and regret are the REAL failures and they will always hurt more and longer than rejection.

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.