What qualifies you to give advice on this forum?

[sylvester the cat]

This place can be quite intimidating for noobs what with all the advice being given. But how much of this advice is worth listening to and how much is it just for benefit of the advice-giver (reputation, ego, etc)

For my part i'm in my forties, had experience in relationships some serious, some not so serious. I've lived with two long term partners, been engaged but never married and had sexual encounters with over thirty women.

Given the advice we give can have life changing consequences What is your experience That qualifies you to tell others how it is?

 

[jurry]

People are always going to be guided first and foremost by direct experience; the second-hand advice on specific situations is only maybe 10-20% of the equation, the rest has to be figured out for each man for himself. If he isnt willing to look at himself and his relationship with women honestly, really doesnt matter what he reads on here.

 

[VikingKing]

Wisdom and experiance. Some of the very best advice givers here are men 30 years and older who are not leftists.

Wisdom is a result of time. Being alive longer than you. A child can be more intelligent than you are, but they lack wisdom.

For example my dad knows a lot of sh1t. Many things I experience that I lack knowledge of, I can ask him and either he already has the answers or if he doesn't have the answers he knows how to find them more efficiently than I do. Very valuable resource. Old men have very much value, if you just listen.

Or if a young man is respected by older men, he might be very sharp and also qualify.

 

[SmooveMooves]

Experience.

I'm fairly young but I have had a decent amount of success with women. Even before I got into game I had a fairly decent body count. I still was a huge AFC though.

However, the knowledge I've gained here has helped me better my life. Not just my pickup skills. Becoming a DJ can change someone's life. Which is why I give advice because I know first hand for a fact, it works.

 

[Desdinova]

My experience is all here:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=188218

It's a long, hard climb to the top

 

[playa99]

The qualifier for giving quality advice is having extensive knowledge of something combined with hands on experience in that field, for instance a lot of great boxing coaches used to be professional boxers themselves, OR they have a helluva lot of experience as a coach!

A teacher has to go through university and learn how to teach.. The same is true of a DJ, you start as an AFC freshman and finish graduating as a Master Don Juan...

Even in dating, everyone has there own specialisms, I couldn't give advice on online dating cause it's something I've never done!

If you wanted advice on college game, day game and LTR's i'd be your man, cause that's what I've done the most of!

 

[logicallefty]

Wife divorced me after 12 years for being a fat AFC, married a bigamist wh0re, got cheated on by bigamist with 3 men, a 2.5 year LTR with a BPD, dated about 100 online chicks, lost 150 lbs at one time, 7 years as a patrol officer and cybercrime detective (with the bigamist ex using social media to setup her dates right out from under me). I currrently work in the Sociopathic Business Model (Google it), sister sh|t on me at the lowest point in my life after I trusted her completely, buried my dad when I was 29.

Am I qualified?

 

[way2smart]

I was a pure AFC until recently. I got married when I was 22, got divorced at 23, thankfully I had no kids.

I swallowed the red pill at 24, I'm 26 now and my life couldn't have been better!
From what I've read here, it appears that some major life event or crisis makes people come here and swallow the red pill.

Remembering my AFC days, I get really embarrassed of myself. Thankfully no one knows me as an AFC anymore.

 

[TheGambino]

Get on top of your own game.

Be educated, love yourself, and enjoy life. Go to the gym and be fit, dress well and take care of yourself.

Women will come when they see you got your life on track.

oh yea and girls aint loyal keep your options open

what qualifies me:

I was a total AFC, changed myself went to the gym and started approach like crazy. F8cked a lot of different girls after getting outcome independant. I still need to work on needy behavior though.

Experience qualifies me.

 

[Yorkex]

Most of my answers are from experience or passed on from another person's experience.
Don't forget even the child can teach the adult something about life.

 

[Bible_Belt]

One time on a band trip I held hands with a girl all the way home.

 

[zekko]

We're all regular dudes just trying to live life.

I like that statement, and that attitude.

I've never made any claim as to being a PUA, or a player, or some kind of superstud. But I have had 54 years of dealing with women, so I feel like I know a thing or two about them. And I did learn very early on that you have to keep your self respect when dealing with women, that may be the most important thing.

 

[JohnChops]

I've been on this site for 9 years now. I think I've developed a sense of who's for real and who's not. It's become almost like common sense to me.

I'm personally not concerned about who's "qualified." I've actually met several dudes who post on this site, and I can say that their online wisdom has always outweighed anything they ever did when sarging with them in a face-to-face environment (and that goes for myself, too).

We're all regular dudes just trying to live life.

At this point, I'm just enjoying reading posts that seem to motivate me. And I've been motivated by all kinds here on SS--vets and newbies.

 

[Bingo-Player]

for me its not about what I've done right with women its what I've done WRONG

and fvck me have i made some god awful mistakes stuff i literally cringe thinking about

i feel now i can give almost anyone an unbiased honest opinion on a situation based on my well of experience

at 23 i have a lot more to learn of course ,

relationship wise i am in the dark never had one thats lasted longer than 6 months a recess monkey could give you better advice i know how to avoid them and thats about it

i specialise in not giving a fvck , one night stands and breaking down chicks who think they run the show

thats what i enjoy

 

[( . )( . )]

What qualifies me? Ummm try 8000 posts over at loveshack sh!tlord.

#fartrapeisreal #illbombwithyou #womenwithpenis#checkyourcisprivilege

 

[Darth]

What qualifies me to give advice:
-Strong moral compass
-An incredibly bad life full of bad things that happened to me, in which I came out on top
-Seeing feminism for what it is-the single number one social problem in America
-My share of dates, second dates, girls who wanted to be my girlfriend, etc.

 

[Darth]

One time on a band trip I held hands with a girl all the way home.

LMAO.

 

[Eternal_water]

Well if you've had sex with over 30 women then I'd say your "qualified" to give advice.

Anyone who recognizes my username and can recall any of my threads/comments knows that I'm not in a position to give much out in the way of advice outside of the health and fitness section.

 

[Darth]

Well if you've had sex with over 30 women then I'd say your "qualified" to give advice.

To me, "having sex" is not the barometer. To me, "being attractive" is the barometer-do with it what you will.

 

[( . )( . )]

Well if you've had sex with over 30 women then I'd say your "qualified" to give advice.

What if all those women were fatties?