"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

What point to wear a belt?

D

Durden Tyler

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 23, 2006
Messages
54
Reaction score
0
I was wondering at what point/weight I should start considering to wear a belt? Is it an absolute for squats and DL's?

My DL's are a measly 185 but feel I can go about another 30 to 40 lbs more for a good workout. I pretty sure my form is good, but I'm still a little nervous about injury.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

D

D_Master

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 20, 2004
Messages
84
Reaction score
1
Age
44
Location
Indiana
Tyler,
I DL around 270 and I usually have worn a belt since starting around 225. I always have wondered the same thing myself as I am not sure myself. I'm like you and afraid of injury. With something like your back I'd say it's better to play it safe.
 
E

EFFORT

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 17, 2003
Messages
2,115
Reaction score
45
Location
USA
I'd reccomend you to always wear the belt when squatting, deadlifting, even barbell rows, injuries suck and put you behind
 
D

Durden Tyler

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 23, 2006
Messages
54
Reaction score
0
Well, I thought my form was pretty good but as I was lifting this morning a guy came up and pointed out some of my flaws which would not have resulted in back injury, but knee problems. I'm glad he pointed this out as I did feel my knees a little under pressure.

A side note: sometimes it can be somewhat intimidating walking into the gym and the only other people smaller than me are women.... whew, at least I'm not that small. Anyways, like I mentioned above, a guy out of no where came up to give me some friendly instruction and I noticed another guy giving advice to another newbie. I guess were that obvious :D

So I guess my point is, yes there is a lot of testosterone oozing everywhere, but it appears most are pretty friendly which makes it a little more relaxing.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

Read more...

T

Teflon_Mcgee

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 3, 2006
Messages
918
Reaction score
27
On belts and braces:

Years ago I read a study on the use of wheight belts and (knee) braces.
It claimed that far to many people use them without need to produce ill effects.

It seems the muscle is not fully utilized when stabilized and contracted by the use of the belt and may even lead to partial atrophy in some fibers.

Of course, this was YEARS ago and I can't remember the details but at the time it did make excellent sense.

IMO, belts are not needed unless you are trying to set records.
Just work on form and don't try to be a he-man lifting more than you can.
I see enought knowledgable guys squatting or deadlifting more than most of us ever will whithout a belt. Then I see guys lifting 200 pounds with a belt and I just laugh.

The most important way to avoid back injury is have a good base and build a stong back.

I had a severley bad back from my body being destroyed in the Corps. After a year of working on building it it is amazing how much I can put it through without pain or injury.
 
D

Durden Tyler

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 23, 2006
Messages
54
Reaction score
0
Teflon_Mcgee said:
On belts and braces:

Years ago I read a study on the use of wheight belts and (knee) braces.
It claimed that far to many people use them without need to produce ill effects.

It seems the muscle is not fully utilized when stabilized and contracted by the use of the belt and may even lead to partial atrophy in some fibers.

Of course, this was YEARS ago and I can't remember the details but at the time it did make excellent sense.

IMO, belts are not needed unless you are trying to set records.
Just work on form and don't try to be a he-man lifting more than you can.
I see enought knowledgable guys squatting or deadlifting more than most of us ever will whithout a belt. Then I see guys lifting 200 pounds with a belt and I just laugh.

The most important way to avoid back injury is have a good base and build a stong back.

I had a severley bad back from my body being destroyed in the Corps. After a year of working on building it it is amazing how much I can put it through without pain or injury.
Click to expand...

Okay, no belt...:D
 
S

Skilla_Staz

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 2, 2006
Messages
2,214
Reaction score
10
Age
37
Location
Omaha, Nebraska
I've never used a belt, but I vote that you leave it off until you start doing some maxing, such as 1-2 reps, or when you're handling some SERIOUS weight (>500lbs)

I see kids putting on belts when they go to squeeze in a set of squats @ 185. It's like c'mon guys, can you SERIOUSLY not get it RAW?
 
M

md3sign

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 26, 2006
Messages
404
Reaction score
1
Location
Everywhere
IMO belts should only be used when you're going for heavy low-rep PRs, like triples or singles. Otherwise you should be slowly developing a strong back and core, something that a belt doesn't help with.
 
F

Fortunate_Juan

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 13, 2005
Messages
232
Reaction score
1
Location
Earth
Front squats. You have to keep your back straight to do them.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

S

Skilla_Staz

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 2, 2006
Messages
2,214
Reaction score
10
Age
37
Location
Omaha, Nebraska
Not |. A little bit of a forward lean is natural, but you shouldn't need a belt unless you're doing serious weight. It's like using straps, wraps, etc. You shouldn't NEED assistance unless you're hitting some serious poundage.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top