"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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what percentage of you are military ex or current?

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Former Special Forces of Keckistan here. I was discharged and disavowed, for openly questioning Carl Benjamin's divinity one too many times
 

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I tried to be an army officer in college, but for some reason I always made senior officers furious. One day my colonel slammed me against a wall until I agreed to quit rotc. As he told me that he would make the rest of my life "a living hell," he punctuated each of those three words with another slam against the wall, then kept repeating. It was a very persuasive argument.
 

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I tried to be an army officer in college, but for some reason I always made senior officers furious. One day my colonel slammed me against a wall until I agreed to quit rotc
Well, you did slather the g-string he wore under his dress uniform in Dave's Insanity Sauce, Belt. More than once. Ain't surprising that the dude didn't have much love for you afterwards
 

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Hi Eli,
Your dodgy eyes saved you from what might have been a Dogs life...For me the Army was just like being in Prison but having a smarter uniform...First morning after Breakfast the Sargeant paraded us to allocate duties..."Who understands French here "he asked...No response,"OK anyone Know a little? I timidly responded that I had done three years in High School..."right you'll do smatarvse,you're on latrines".
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Which brand? I was ready to join the Navy, I had the physical aptitude and I graduated from engineering at that time, but I found an engineering job and I didn't.

I wonder sometimes what could've been if I would've joined. Do you wonder too?
brand dont know about that but I applied to navy then marines.
 

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I tried to be an army officer in college, but for some reason I always made senior officers furious. One day my colonel slammed me against a wall until I agreed to quit rotc. As he told me that he would make the rest of my life "a living hell," he punctuated each of those three words with another slam against the wall, then kept repeating. It was a very persuasive argument.
was that due to typical politics?Or did you seduce his girl?
 
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