samueladams
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Just pondering it. What percentage of HB's 7+ do you think are actually single that are out at bars?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
what percentage of HB's @ bars are actually single?
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
bigjohnson
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Close to zero. Any hot girl is gonna have plenty of suitors and they're wired to grab branches. Bet on it. Whether she's gone through some socially accepted protocol to declare her taken state is up for doubt, but they all have guys on the string.
Probably the majority I would say. Most guys with gf's don't like their gf's going to clubs, especially alone. But, who cares if they are single or not, if they are not married, they are available. Most chicks with bf's don't even really care for their bf's at all, they just can't stand to be single, so they get a bf just so they can show them off to their friends and try to control.
Almost all of them.
You gotta get into the mindset that pretty much all women are single, cause if you don't, you're missing out on a good portion of the female population. If you don't take advantage of situations, someone else will.
Is it right? No, but that's just how it is.
Last weekend I went out with some chicks I know. At the end of the night they were pretty drunk and ended up back at my place. The one I have known for a long time called the guy she is dating, trying to get him to pick her up I think. When he wouldn't come get her she ended up in my bed.
The other chick did the same thing. Called her b/f and when he wouldn't come get her she called a cab. While she was waiting for the cab I was making out with her.
If either one of these girls took their "relationships" seriously, they wouldn't have been behaving that way. It's sad that most women are like this, but you better learn to live with it cause that's just the way it is.
You gotta get into the mindset that pretty much all women are single, cause if you don't, you're missing out on a good portion of the female population. If you don't take advantage of situations, someone else will.
Is it right? No, but that's just how it is.
Last weekend I went out with some chicks I know. At the end of the night they were pretty drunk and ended up back at my place. The one I have known for a long time called the guy she is dating, trying to get him to pick her up I think. When he wouldn't come get her she ended up in my bed.
The other chick did the same thing. Called her b/f and when he wouldn't come get her she called a cab. While she was waiting for the cab I was making out with her.
If either one of these girls took their "relationships" seriously, they wouldn't have been behaving that way. It's sad that most women are like this, but you better learn to live with it cause that's just the way it is.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
DonJoseCantosie
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I'm liking this thread. Bump.
rakishness
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Probably about 75 percent. Which really shocked me once i started going to bars. It's a little strange. These women are generally attention hors. They want to have their cake and eat it too.
persiangino
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ummmm, change 'boyfriends' to idiots without a clue in the world to what is really going on and then you get your answer. 100%
for the situation where you start convo with an HB, and she comes back with "i have a boyfriend", i have the line "ya know, ive been a boyfriend many times, they come and go". say this looking her straight in the eyes with utter confidence, and youll have a much better chance of pulling her.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Chosen1
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I like that it's actually a good line.jamescr73 said:
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Yea, but who cares if u want to pick up chicks...if thats ur goal...if the bar is great for that...go for it...if not...ur right.
PRMoon
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No one knows the anwser to this question. It depends on the city, the bar, the day, the night etc etc. There are too many variables to imput.
If you were to ask how many REGULARS at a bar are single women, I'd say that would be on the low end. Usually hot girls who frequent the same bar over and over won't be single for long and after that don't go the bar as much.
If you were to ask how many REGULARS at a bar are single women, I'd say that would be on the low end. Usually hot girls who frequent the same bar over and over won't be single for long and after that don't go the bar as much.
Boschy
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I tell my friends this: why are the HBs here, where the music is too loud to talk properly, the booze is expensive, it is crowded, smokey, etc. Because they want to meet other people, and usually men.
If they behave as though they have boyfriends or are not friendly, your game still needs work, and/or some venues are tougher than others. E.g. I find that trendy bars are tougher to game than laid-back suburban pubs, but they have better quality girls.
If they behave as though they have boyfriends or are not friendly, your game still needs work, and/or some venues are tougher than others. E.g. I find that trendy bars are tougher to game than laid-back suburban pubs, but they have better quality girls.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Depends on the bar...the classier bars most girls are with dates
I love Hyori Lee
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Who cares. Does it matter? Just approach and you'll find out.