what next?

[gc_scot]

Guys,

I have a this girl that I was once involved with, at the time it did not workout as she was still getting over a long relationship, after a bit of time we became friends again, the situation has changed somewhat and we are both travelling now, We had planned to go overseas together before we got involved, then of course things changed so I changed my flights, she has now arrived and come to stay with me but we are sleeping in seperate rooms, we went away for the weekend to do some sightseeing and shared a bed, nothing happened but I felt through the time we spent we where getting closer I found her deliberatley brushing her hand on my leg when we where chatting, ( bottle of wine consummed) anyway the other night she told me that she is completley off guys and is not intrested in any of them, she said that I have treated her so well in the past and care for her she knows she wont get it from anyone else but she cant help not loving me and she believes she has to love someone now before taking anything to the next step, she also told me that she hadnt seen anyone since me and asked me if I had (which I havent) I took the friend view and told her one day she will meet someone who she will fall for, just to be patient. question is how do i make that person me??

I have just been letting her get on with things and not trying to crowd her as she is living with me, I have read the bible but can't find anything in that points me in the right direction, if there is no hope then I can accept that but if there is a chance and I just dont know how then I seek the knowlege.

any suggestions??

 

[crowes22]

You must be from UK,Scotland or somehere over there, I can tell from the way you write. Right?

Your deal, IMO, you are deep in friend zone, real deep. Date others, fvck them w/ her there. Leave her at home and do shyt on your own. Retreat. Bang girls at your place, this will help.

 

[smoke city]

i agree...only in the movies could you turn this one around. if you're looking for a female friend, then cool. but otherwise it's best to avoid this one.

 

[jprjrjr]

Originally posted by smoke city
i agree...only in the movies could you turn this one around. if you're looking for a female friend, then cool. but otherwise it's best to avoid this one.

I think you could salvage this, but you'd have to be a master DJ to pull it off. I'm not sure you're at that level yet.

 

[gc_scot]

I am from Edinburgh Scotland, how did you know??

Well I am no master but I want to give this a go so I will keep my distance and let her get on with whatever she does and I will do the same, what If I am going out with mates and she wants to come along, would it not harm things if I was to just say no?

I was thinking of the fun aspect, maybe just make sure that she has a great time when she is with me and then maybe be distant other times,

What do you think ?

 

[crowes22]

Originally posted by gc_scot
I am from Edinburgh Scotland, how did you know??

Well I am no master but I want to give this a go so I will keep my distance and let her get on with whatever she does and I will do the same, what If I am going out with mates and she wants to come along, would it not harm things if I was to just say no?

I was thinking of the fun aspect, maybe just make sure that she has a great time when she is with me and then maybe be distant other times,

What do you think ?

I could just tell by the way you wrote your post.

If you want to go out w/ the boys and don't want her to come, tell her it's a guys night out. I would not be weak and let her tag along w/ me whenever I went out. Let her wonder.

Instead of making sure she has fun, make sure YOU have fun, you are not here to entertain this woman.

 

[gc_scot]

ok cool thanks thats what I will do then, cant not have fune with her completley though, think I still have to keep her intrested a little dont you think?