"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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blazingdown

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I got this girl to make out with me - and a week later - she said she felt guilty over making out with me cos she liked another guy.
Now we're friends but last night she was over, she let me fondle her boobs but when i tried to close in for a kiss, din't work.
Today I get a text from her, she says I miss you.

I'm a bit annoyed here. Her game is far from straight and is starting to get to me. So i replied asking her,
yeah? what do you miss about me?
her response:
nothing! hmph.

what next?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This wouldn't be the first time a female was confused about her feelings.... Ya know?

Seems like the ball was slowly moving from the other guy's court to yours... It's up to you whether she's worth pursuing, or whether you have better things to do. Some hookups take more effort than others, so you have to evaluate each one individually. In this case, I think she was headed your way but needed to figure out a thing or two.

Don't sweat it, all is not lost if you're still interested. Don't be afraid to throw a few compliments her way if you want to keep things rolling.

The Gambler
 

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blazingdown said:
I got this girl to make out with me - and a week later - she said she felt guilty over making out with me cos she liked another guy.
Now we're friends but last night she was over, she let me fondle her boobs but when i tried to close in for a kiss, din't work.
Today I get a text from her, she says I miss you.

I'm a bit annoyed here. Her game is far from straight and is starting to get to me. So i replied asking her,
yeah? what do you miss about me?
her response:
nothing! hmph.

what next?


Seems like your new to the wonderful world of women.

Let me teach you your first and likely most important lesson.

What a woman SAYS and what she DOES (WANTS) are two completely different things.

So she made out with you, then said she felt guilty eh? Well how guilty do you think she felt when she was over at your house a few days later letting you play with her rack? Exactly.

Women are emotional, they run off feeling not logic. So the proper thing to do in situations like yours is to back off, distract her by talking or doing something else, then go back to slowly escalating and getting her horny.

Instead of being Captain Obvious and going straight for the good stuff, try warming her up by gently touching her and then massaging her, then STOP and go back to watching tv or whatever else you guys were doing. She will start to get horny and anticipate/want more.

Then you go back to touching, etc and eventually she will be down and attack your face.....lol

It works almost every time.

If you do all this right and she still resists and or seems to be getting upset, then you need to kick her @ss out because she's using you for attention and giving you almost nothing in return.









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First off, thanks for the advice. I appreciate it.

Pimp-sicle,
You are right on the teasing part - its like throwing a ball of strings to a cat, she loves playing with it but when you withdraw the ball, she'll want some more to the point her claws are neatly out as if to mean business.

How do i make her feel for me? The best way is to make her miss me so much that she loses all reason and jumps on the emotion wagon and is heading straight towards my place. For that, I have to back off, as pointed by Gambler/

She is a great gal - and worth the time - time herself being so uncertain, i'll need a lot more patience if I really must have her.

What does bother me about persistence though, is that like the Great Gatsby, how far would you be willing to go? And if you want it all in the line for one desire alone, would it be worth it - to die before reaching it?

I suppose letting go works too - but when the leevee breaks, led zeppelin comes to aid.

Thank you.
 
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